What does it mean when my boyfriend says he wants to see what life is like without me in it?

I am 42 with 7 yr old daug. my bf is 26. We have been together for 5 years. I met him in college. We love each other. He says I am a good women and that He loves me but wants to take break from our relationship, No calls no texting. No IM that he needs to see if he really needs me in his life.

I need some help here too. My boyfriend and I have been together almost 7 years. We had great time in the first two years at school. After that, we both work, and we just like every couple had some fights, arugments, and disagreements, but we never had time off during 6 years. Something was turned very bad this year when I asked him how he felt about me and our relationship and marriage. First, he said he still loves me and will consider marriage. Then, each time we met he act differently and said things worse and worse. Finally, he told me that we had no sparks and passions in this relationship. I was so sad and mad, I was blaming and angry. I did not know that actually killed last attractions he had to me. We decided to take temporate time off, so I went back home for 3 and half months. We have not met since last June about half year and talked four times during the time. Finally, we met becasue he tried to help me to fix my computer. He told me that my computer was so slower and not worth to fix. So, he bought new computer for me and set everything up. He told me that we are family and I am his BF. He does not want lose me, but he needs to experience life without me in order to moving the relationship forward (marriage or something). He still wants to talk to me because I am the only one person can understand him. He likes companionship with me. Basically, He wants to keep me as family member. He also told me that he did not date anyone during our time apart. He thinks it is better to tell me before he is dating someone. He told me he still cares about me a lot amd thinks about we can go Las Vegas, Haiwaii, and Shanghai together. I asked him if he was over me or not. He said he did not know. This time has no crying, blaming, and judging. I let him go for good, but I still have feelings for him.
Just want to know by your experience is that possible he comes back to me or still has feelings for me? Do you guys have some thoughts and advice on it ? Any comfort will be appreciated.
Thanks!

i think your bf wants to see what it is like to be with out you. if you are still in his mind in 2 weeks he knows u are the one if not, then im thinking he will want to part ways

Hi

I need some advice please. I have been going out with my boyfriend for over 2years. I am 28 and my BF is 26. I had noticed him a little distant and he has been going out alot more, with his single friend who has just returned from travelling the world. Alot of our friends have got engaged and are getting married and during the week, I called him to say we needed to talk about our relationship. He came to my house straight away and we talked. He said he loves me no matter what i think, but he lately felt he was missing out on single life, when out with his single friend. (just that one friend in particular) we had a good talk and he said he would distant himself from that friend. He also said he felt under pressure to get married and that i was way to good for him. I let him no that i dont want to get married yet myself! which I dont, and if there was ever talk of the future it was always him bringing it up. After the chat he said he felt much better and his head was clearer. I also said to him if he wanted to be single he could go, cause i wasnt going to be in a r/ship with someone who didnt want to be in it, but i was prepared to fight for him this time as I do no him. He also recently met with his birth Mum and I know he has a lot of things going on in his head. He said he just felt really unsettled. Since the Talk he has seemed to come back to me! I have asked him a couple of times how he feels now and he says fine, i know i have to stop asking him. I am also a very jealous person and due to a previous r/ship i have real trust issues so since this talk i feel really insecure even more than i have had and very unsettled. What if he realises in a couple of months again he doesnt want to be in a relationship. Is this normal in relationships to have a wee wobble or to have those feelings? Oh i just feel terrible and slightly depressed! Help plz

Anon,

In addition to Susan's great advice, I want an explanation of exactly what the two weeks would entail. Are there ground rules? Two weeks "without you in it" -- does this mean he wants to be free to date or see other people during these two weeks? Go out with the guys and flirt with girls at bars? Act "single" ? I would be sure you know exactly what he's requesting here. A two-week break isn't a big deal if he considers himself still in a monogamous relationship, but if he literally wants two "free" weeks I am more worried.