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Eating Disordered Women: Top Ten Ways to Help Them Through the Holidays

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The holidays seem to revolve around food, and of course, this is challenging for anyone with an eating disorder. If I could have my younger daughter back again, these are the ten ways I would create a beautiful holiday for her.

1. Forget Perfectionism

Decorating for the holidays must be about families doing something ENJOYABLE together. While decorating, play some relaxing holiday music; we always liked The Austrian Boys Choir. Nobody likes being told exactly where to place the tinsel so do not rearrange what others have done. Since low self-esteem is an issue for the eating disordered family member, praise her for her efforts.

2. Traditions

Repeat some traditions you practiced when she was young, like baking her favorite Christmas cookies. Often a woman with an eating disorder likes to cook but not eat. Yet the aroma of her favorite childhood cookies baking might make her feel safe enough to try one.

3. Gifts

The best gift is the one with the most thought behind it. A meditation CD will help quiet the voice in her head, classes in a favorite activity she feels passionate about, or a beautiful journal may help uncover her core issues. But your time is the greatest gift. Spend time talking with her and listening, really listening.

4. Have Fun

Don’t be too busy with the holiday prep to let loose. My daughter and I used to love dancing in the family room. She would teach me the latest dance steps and laugh hysterically while I attempted them. In turn, I taught her the jitterbug, conga, and our favorite, the bunny hop.

5. Party Time

Give her a responsibility. The vegetable platter is a good choice, and have her make a low fat, low calorie dip. She will be more tempted to indulge if she knows what’s in a dish. She can also help clean so she feels part of the preparations. And praise, praise.

6. Family Activities

Participate in fun activities that don’t involve food. Go ice skating, to a holiday parade or play, drive to view the city lights, or get the neighborhood together for caroling. Then go for some hot chocolate.

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