Today I am looking for support. I got out of a bad relationship by court order in February of 2008. Since then, my life has become better and he was out of sight out of mind. My neighbors right across the street from me also were no longer friends with him and they were my friend.
Making a long story short, the neighbors have become friends with him again. He appears out of no where and is right across the street where there is no obstructions of view. I sit in the house when I am home now with the blinds closed and I feel like a prisoner in my own home.
I own my own home and this is the worst feeling. I am so frustrated because I work very hard and hate the idea of not even feeling comfortable when I come home to relax. I need advise. I tried talking with the neighbors and was brushed off. Can anyone share ideas?
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I just wanted to say thank you so much for the advise about this issue. Tina, I have since signed up for H & R Block classes so it will keep my mind a little more busy and create a wall of opportunity around me.
Susan as for the protection order, yes, he is in violation. I could call the police and make chaos but I have a lot of respect for people and hate drama or confrontation. I have decided that I will not let him ruin my life anymore and I will not shut my doors. Life is just too short.
Thanks for giving me back my strength to remember that I am strong willed and that fear is no longer part of my vocabulary. I love this website.
September 27, 2008 - 3:16pmThis Comment
Hello there, This must be extremely frustrating for you, especially in thinking that you could move on after a not-so pleasant incident in your life. I was wondering ... have you noticed patterns in his visits to the neighbors? The reason I ask is that maybe that's the night you can take a class, get together with some supportive friends over dinner or head to the gym. At least this way, you're in a different environment, receiving the social support you need or learning a new skill. Also, it's amazing how activity can take our minds off of things. With regard to the neighbors, I'm not sure of your relationship with them. How long have you known them? Were you really good friends or acquaintances? Is it worth the energy to try to work on that relationship? Or is it time to meet new people who may not have been associated with your ex?
September 21, 2008 - 6:08pmThis Comment