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Im confused, am I pregnant?

By June 6, 2010 - 9:11am
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So me and my boyfriend started to have sex last september, unprotected. I continued to have my period. Then on october 19th, we had sex again, kind of feelin invincible, but this time my boyfriend thought he climaxed. We became nervous, yet I continued to have my period.

Months later on Valentines Day, we had sex again. Just a few times he penetrated into me, no orgasms though.

I constantly am afraid that I am pregnant. I still get bleeding, every month on time,cramps, I am sixteen, I never got morning sickness. Also, I have been so focused on my period that it seems different. Now sometimes my tampon only gets bloody on one side, or it seems lighter.

I took a pregnancy test...I believe in march, after my period. I took two, one at night and then one the next morning and both came out negative.

Please help me, I'm so afraid.

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Hi Asayo!

I am glad you found our site for your confusion about womanhood. You are completely fine. Your periods will be normal, then all of a sudden become completely out of whack and then go back to being normal. All of these things you explain are completely normal.

Sometimes there is no reason for abnormal periods. Sometimes we skip months, sometimes we have cramps so bad that you would think your insides are going to fall out and then on other occasions, you go to the bathroom and notice your period and you never felt a thing. There is just no real explanation why these things happen. If you are stressed, exercise, change your diet, these will all affect your menstrual cycle as well.

Since you are only 14 years old, have you considered birth control? Can you talk to your parents about sex or is that out of the question?

There are many things you need to learn about how to protect yourself from sexually transmitted diseases, how to prevent pregnancy and so forth. You should also talk to your partner about this also. My biggest concern about this question is that you are fearing every time you have sex. Are you sure you are really prepared for the possible consequences of having sex? It is certainly okay to wait!

Talk to us, Asayo! We will guide you the best way possible!

June 6, 2010 - 11:48am
(reply to Anonymous)

Well, first off I am sixteen. I do about condoms and all the other birth controls.

I only have my dad and we do not speak of anything woman related.

I didn't freak out until one slip up now I fear everything. Currently I feel more that waiting is a better choice for me so I am trying for that.

June 6, 2010 - 7:54pm

YEAH! I am so glad to hear back from you, and that you have had periods in April and May. whew!

Condoms are a GREAT choice...they are up to 98% effective at preventing against pregnancy when used consistently and correctly each and every time. The pill, and other hormonal contraceptives, are very safe for most women, and could be a good choice for you when you are old enough to visit with your doctor on your own.

You may want to educate yourself on Plan B, or emergency contraception, as you can get this without parent's permission, without a prescription, and it is used "just in case" immediately after intercourse (not as a birth control, but if something happens to a condom, for instance). It is good to know which pharmacies carry them, so you can be prepared if the worst happens. Please know---it is not a substitute for birth control, as it is a mega dose of hormones (found in the pill), and the pill is MUCH more effective. The Plan B is only for emergencies, but good to have on hand (or, know how to get it quickly at the pharmacy). I can tell you more about this if you are interested.

Your period can change from cycle-to-cycle, and can be lighter, heavier, or longer or shorter duration; it can be different colors (brown, pink, red), with spotting or no spotting beforehand. Seeing blood on only one side of the tampon is normal. Does this information help?

June 6, 2010 - 11:45am
(reply to Alison Beaver)

So do you think that I am just stressing too much?
And yes I knew about the Plan B, but here you cant get it until seventeen so I know that is an option when I reach that age. Trust me I wouldn't be careless about that, I know it is a serious thing.

For birth control I would kind of like to stay well natural, even though that sounds kind of silly.
So instead me and my boyfriend are pretty much stopping having sex until we are married.
All of this stuff is just too much of a risk for me.

Also, thanks this is helpful. ^^

June 6, 2010 - 7:55pm

When was your last period? In March? Did you have a period in April or May, as today is June 6th. Please write back!

Taking a pregnancy test after your period is not necessary, as a menstrual period would mean you are not pregnant for that cycle.

However, having regular, unprotected intercourse is very, very high risk for pregnancy (that, is in fact, how couples DO get pregnant!). I am very concerned that you have not had a period since March.

Have you taken a pregnancy test recently, if you have not had a period in April or May?

June 6, 2010 - 9:56am
(reply to Alison Beaver)

I have continued to have my period. If fact, I just finished it a few days ago but it seems lighter
that just may be my over analyzing.

My boyfriend is the same age as me
and we use protection now because it is scary.

June 6, 2010 - 10:21am
(reply to asayo)

and by protection I mean condoms. Im afraid to use the pill because of the effects and I know that my father would never let me be on it.

June 6, 2010 - 10:37am

Oh and I often feel like I have to use the bathroom alot more, that has been happening since about early march.

June 6, 2010 - 9:47am
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