My husband and I found out we were pregnant in January of 2008, and by March I noticed my sex drive had begun to diminish. I chalked it up to pregnancy hormones being wacky, and tried to keep sex in our lives. Of course, the more pregnant I got, the less I wanted to, but I figured once I had the baby I would be "normal" again. Well, my daughter was born in September of 08 and since then... nothing. At first it was because I was so focused on her, but now i have no excuse. Sex has been painful since having her (I had a third degree tear, and a second tear to the side, so looootttttsss of stiches). I don't want sex at all, even though I am still physically attracted to my husband, I just can't "turn myself on" for lack of another way to put it. He tries to turn me on but it doesn't work and I just get frusterated. The things that used to be good just aren't anymore, and honestly if I had my way I would go to bed and cuddle with him and fall asleep... and be happy. But sex is important for our marriage and I miss my husband!!! Whats wrong with me??? What do I do now? I don't even know what to suggest for him to help, and our sex life has come to a screeching halt. It's not healthy for our marriage and I could really use some advice!
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