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A little drunk at the club

By Anonymous January 22, 2016 - 6:13pm
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Well first of all I don't know if this is a good place to ask this. I hope it is acceptable. I notice some people do ask some pretty casual questions that are not 100% health related. I could have asked this from yahoo but I hope this forum is a little bit more mature and woman friendly than some kids on yahoo.

So here's what's bothering me. I'm a pretty young college girl. Just got into college. I come from a pretty enclosed and over-protective background, meaning I never had any freedom. Was home schooled my entire time and turned out horribly shy because of it. But the other day I was invited out to a fraternity party being hosted at a dance club. While the idea of something like that made me extremely nervous, I decided that I would never experience anything interesting if I didn't take risk when socializing. So I did it.

I started out awkward but as the night went on and the first drink hit me pretty good (Guess I'm a real lightweight) I got more comfortable. After awhile I feel like I got too comfortable. I just danced. Thats it. Not kissing or no casual sex with strangers. But I grinded a random guy and I guess we were having fun and we got into it. My friend's girlfriend had been the one to really encourage me to start dancing and I was kinda not into but again, after awhile we had even grinded a little. She didn't seem to have a problem with it at the time but now I'm not sure. I really didn't have sexual intentions. I know people do this at clubs but I feel extremely embarrassed and I'm not sure if its because I literally went too far or was it just my social anxiety coming to bite me after the fact or a little of both.

I guess I'm asking if this is something I should be especially embarrassed about. Don't get me wrong, I know it was naughty but was it that bad. Should I feel embarrassed that a couple friends saw me have fun?

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Hi Anon

Thanks for your post!

We can't say if someone should be embarrassed about something or not. But ask yourself if you hurt anyone by doing this, if this will have consequences or if this will matter in 6 months time. Sounds like the answer is no to all three. So let it go, laugh it off and don't drink too much again if you think you'll do things that may make you feel bad.


January 23, 2016 - 4:44pm
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