My boyfriend wont have sex with me anymore

I have this problem too.. It started out really early.. Into our 4th month of our relationship he started watching porn, when he started that we stopped having sex. Everytime I tried to turn him on he'd say he was tired, I'd check his phone and sure enough he had just jacked off. It was frustrating at first.. Then he decided he wanted a baby... Which made us start having sex more.. We were having sex again.. Even throughout my whole pregnancy.. He proposed to me after we found out we were expecting.. We had a beautiful baby boy.. And I've been ready to have sex a month ago, but he won't budge.. He can't even get hard .. So like many of you I'm depressed, feeling unwanted and unattractive.. I know I'm not fat and I didn't get any stretch marks.. My body looks the same.. So now this is making me second guess marrying him.. I don't want to be in a sexless marriage . I'm still very very young. I'm 21 he's 26.. I've never brought it to his attention because I hate being rejected.. Another reason I stopped trying to have sex.. Him not being able to get hard just tied my stomach in a knot.. Not that I want to compare him but the relationship I was in before him, sex was amazing! And we were together for two years and almost never missed a day of sex.. Even near the end we were still having sex daily..and he was much older.. So you can imagine I went from having sex everyday to if I'm lucky at all.. And masturbation is just not cutting it.. I want his hands all over me wanting me the way I want him ... Were happy but I just feel like a friend to him.. Our days are great so when he does things like kiss my neck nibble my ear or gring up against me, he puts my hopes up every night thinking tonight's the night.... Then nothing..... Why would I want to marry someone that shows me no intimate affection? He does the little things I think to keep me at bay with him. Idk.... I'm gunna give him two more months before I tell him that I'm not sure I want to marry him if this is going to be or life..

I have this problem too.. It started out really early.. Into our 4th month of our relationship he started watching porn, when he started that we stopped having sex. Everytime I tried to turn him on he'd say he was tired, I'd check his phone and sure enough he had just jacked off. It was frustrating at first.. Then he decided he wanted a baby... Which made us start having sex more.. We were having sex again.. Even throughout my whole pregnancy.. He proposed to me after we found out we were expecting.. We had a beautiful baby boy.. And I've been ready to have sex a month ago, but he won't budge.. He can't even get hard .. So like many of you I'm depressed, feeling unwanted and unattractive.. I know I'm not fat and I didn't get any stretch marks.. My body looks the same.. So now this is making me second guess marrying him.. I don't want to be in a sexless marriage . I'm still very very young. I'm 21 he's 26.. I've never brought it to his attention because I hate being rejected.. Another reason I stopped trying to have sex.. Him not being able to get hard just tied my stomach in a knot.. Not that I want to compare him but the relationship I was in before him, sex was amazing! And we were together for two years and almost never missed a day of sex.. Even near the end we were still having sex daily..and he was much older.. So you can imagine I went from having sex everyday to if I'm lucky at all.. And masturbation is just not cutting it.. I want his hands all over me wanting me the way I want him ... Were happy but I just feel like a friend to him.. Our days are great so when he does things like kiss my neck nibble my ear or gring up against me, he puts my hopes up every night thinking tonight's the night.... Then nothing..... Why would I want to marry someone that shows me no intimate affection? He does the little things I think to keep me at bay with him. Idk.... I'm gunna give him two more months before I tell him that I'm not sure I want to marry him if this is going to be or life..

I'm a guy and i wanted to put my point of view across, but i definitely don't agree with that douche who commented last about women nagging and taking away a guy's manhood, he's someone who has been stung in a previous relationship and has turned into a woman hater, try to get a new girl dude and move on.

I personally have a big sex drive, and i struggle to meet any women who can keep up in the bed. I have dated women who are career driven, intellectual, super sexy girls, yet come to the bedroom its boring, 'vanilla sex'. The star fish type that lay flat on the bed, barley do anything to contribute to the mood, and will only have sex in the missionary position or riding on top. Vanilla sex is no longer acceptable for most men these days, variety is the spice of life. Even seeing some hot lingerie can be enough to get my blood pumping. If you can really hotten things up in the bedroom, toys, different positions, sexy underwear, let your inhibitions go a little and i think you will have your men jumping on you. With previous partners i have had agreements where we will make each other orgasm once a day, and it doesn't have to be sex, giving each other oral or masturbating each other somewhere quiet or even somewhere public can help a lot if sex isn't always practical. If nothing is still working, then i would side with one of the previous comments and consider that he maybe a closet homosexual, it's more common that what people think, marriage and a girlfriend can be a good cover story for closet homosexuals.

It seems that the guys who replied here are so bitter towards females. We're all pouring our heart out here, and you just slammed "thank feminism" or "emasculation" towards us. No, we don't believe our guys are gay. In fact, if u read carefully, the person who wrote that was a guy. You said, "go ask ourselves"?! Yes, we are asking ourselves. We're not even pro-feminism. A feminist won't have to ask anymore. They'll just say men have mistreated women in this case. As far as nagging, maybe it's high time for men to ask themselves why their women nag! Someday, u'll be in our shoes, and an apathetic female would just say to your face - be a real man: control your urges and stop nagging.

I feel for you ladies, being in a relationship void of passion, intimacy and romance. But all I see are YOUR sides of the story.

Have you emasculated your men? Chopping him down in public, embarrassing him in front of friends/colleagues? Overturned any of his decisions as a father to his child?

Do you act more like his mother than a lover? (yes, big turn off)

I'll put it to you girls this way:

What happens when you rob a man of his manhood? You basically created a chick with a dick. And y'all wonder why now your man is the one giving you the lame excuses that women usually give men to avoid sex.

Yes, if you've emasculated him, he'll turn into a female (plus the penis), and he'll start treating you like females do.

I suggest you guys look up articles about how you might be unconsciously emasculating your man.

Plus, you might be screaming...he might possibly be gay! Honey, I wouldn't be screaming that to the hills...remember YOU PICKED HIM! So obviously you don't even know how to choose a REAL MAN...you're always picking up sissies, closet homosexuals/bisexuals.

And nagging??? For the love of God, CUT IT OUT! We understand that you have a voice and feelings that deserve to be heard. But how would y'all feel if us men bitched about everything? You'd see us as grumpy, pessimistic assholes. Well...what do you think we say about y'all who nag???

I'll wait...

Just to sum it up...yes, men more and more are checking out of intimacy within their relationships. But instead of blaming him, and screaming WHY ME???, why not check yourself. Usually the one who is quick to blame others, is only doing so to deflect the negative attention away from their shortcomings and wrongdoings.

~peace~