I am 41 and my husband is 48. He has Cardiomyopathy and Diabeties. I have had a heart attack with in the last 6 months and have Diabeties and High bloodpressure(was 210/111 pulse 139--high like that for 2 months or so, now more under control). We have been together for over two years but mid March we will have been married for 1 year. In the past year we have only made love 3 times from January to July then nothing until this past January which we did not make love he gave me pleasure. He said he was afraid of my bloodpressure. He says that he loves me as much as he did when we first were together. That he wants me as much as he has wanted me before but that he is unable to do everything to me that he wants to because of his health problems and because of mine.....What do we do? I feel unwanted and unloved quite alot and so very very angry at him because of it and I don't know what to do about it.
I can't even sleep in the same bed with him and just be held by him because of hotflashes. I have to have a fan on and he has to have the heat on. If he gets too cold his heart will hurt and he gets in alot of pain. Plus my 5year old step son sleeps in the bed with him during the winter months because he was a premie and his lungs weren't fully developed. He had to have the Rsp shots every month for 2 1/2 years for his lungs. He is 5 now and has asthma and in the winter has a really bad time with it. My husband is more secure with him in bed with him so he can make sure that he is covered up and warm and can get to him faster even though his own bed is in the corner of our room. I don't know what to do. My husband says that when the weather warms up he will be back in his own bed and I can be back in our bed. I don't feel like this is my room anymore or my bed. Infact our son refers to the room that I sleep in as mommy's room/bed.
When he goes to his mother's to stay on the weekends sometimes he sleeps in his own room there by himself. We did have him going to bed on his own and sleeping by himself until winter came and he got sick. How hard is it going to be to get him back over? How do I feel like I belong in here again? How am I to deal with my husband and my intimate issues, can anything be done about them?
I am sorry for going on and on and for having so much to say at one time. I just didn't know how to or where to stop it. I thank everyone for listening and welcome all responses.
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