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Pregnancy worries WITHOUT intercourse?

By Anonymous June 7, 2010 - 6:34pm
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I can't believe I'm asking this but I'm starting to freak out a little bit.
A few days after my period ended, my boyfriend and I were "messing around." He put his bare penis up to my bare vagina and started rubbing before I told him to stop and put on a condom. (I'm not on any other form of birth control right now.) No ejaculation and no penetration, just possible precm on my vagina.
I didn't think anything of it at the time, but now my period is a few days late - I've had some weird light brown spotting with period-esque cramps, but no period. My breasts are tender and look a little bigger to me, and my skin has absolutely exploded with acne (although that is not unusual for me). I'm kind of freaking out.

I am absolutely exhausted, but to be fair, I have been sleeping an average of four hours a night and have a whole lot of stress in my life right now. We haven't even had sex yet because I am undergoing treatment for vaginsmus - penetration and intercourse is too painful for me, something I'm working on with physical therapy.

I took a sensitive early test the day my period should have come, and it was negative, but still no period. A pregnancy would be absolutely devastating, especially without intercourse - I'm not even sure my boyfriend would believe me. :(

I should mention that I recently stopped taking the Pill because it was making me super depressed and physically ill. I was told to expect some cycle weirdness after stopping, but I'd gone through two full cycles and my period seemed perfectly normal.
Am I making myself nuts or is there a real risk here?

Thanks very much for your help.

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EmpowHER Guest

Hey . My boyfriend and I were just having fun . We had our underwears on but i could feel his penis . He didnt ejaculate . But there was precm . But we had our underwears on . Its been 1 week now after that and I have missed my period for more than a month now . Is it possible that I m pregnant ?

April 29, 2017 - 3:39pm
EmpowHER Guest

Hi, my boyfriend and I kinda messed around last week of March. We didn't have underwear on, but he didn't go in me. We both climaxed at the same time, and he released near my genitals. I have PCOS, and I haven't had menstruation since January. I got off the pill last December or early January. I have just started taking Provera this week (currently on the 3rd day of taking it). Is there a possibility that I am pregnant? I haven't taken any pregnancy tests yet. I'm kind of getting worried, especially having researched that Provera shouldn't be taken when pregnant. Thank you.

April 14, 2017 - 2:00pm
HERWriter Guide (reply to Anonymous)


There doesn't appear to be much of a risk- but a test would be accurate by now.

April 24, 2017 - 1:01pm
EmpowHER Guest

Hi. my bf and I were messing around last march 17. we rubbed it but we did not do it. i got my period last march 24 and it lasts until 31st. I have no signs of pregnancy and tried a lot of pts since then and they were all negative. but im still wondering if there's a chance for me to be pregnant? because I really dont want that to happen.

please answer so i can sleep at peace.

April 11, 2017 - 9:43am
EmpowHER Guest


Me and my gf had a rubbing of genetals 3days after her period. I ejaculate outside her vagina. We are both worried about the scenario. After that she feels her breast a bit swollen and painful, she frequently urinating and have painful lower abdomen. It is two weeks now since it happened and she still complaining about her breast and abdomen but the peeing goes normal already. We do pt twice and the result is negative. We are worried and think she was pregnant. Her period will be 1more week from now.

What is the probability that she was pregnant? We dont know if shes fertile/ovoluting the time we did it.


April 11, 2017 - 12:10am

march 23 was my first day and it lasts 29. 30 day cycle.april 5 messing around with my partner. he wear condom when he rub his on mine , we're naked.without penetration and ejaculation. precum only. im pretty sure there is no leakage. is there a risk of pregnancy in that situation?

April 10, 2017 - 1:15am
EmpowHER Guest

Hi. Okay, this is supposedly my period's week and i've been having spotting for 4 days that was pink at first then became light brown and now it's dark red when usually i bleed heavily in my normal period and it's accompanied with vagina itching and swelling /pain and on the first day i had cramps so hard now it's gone. I'm a virgin i only had anal once which was almost two weeks ago. I'm 19 and my mom keeps telling me to wait for my next period to see if this happens again because this is the first time this happens, in order to see a doctor.

April 7, 2017 - 12:07am
EmpowHER Guest

I'm a virgin. My boyfriend rubbed his penis on my vagina and then i made him wear condom for anal, there was no cum or anything but possibly precum when he rubbed it.
It's been a week now, and it's 3 days before my last period, so i thought I'm having my period a little early, but for the first time I'm having vaginal pain (my vagina is itching and It feels like the insides of it are about to explode out. I can't even sit) with spotting (usually I'm a heavy bleeder normally in my period) and the smell is different (i sure know my usual blood smell but this one is different)
What could i have?
Pls helpp me.

April 5, 2017 - 8:49pm
Guide (reply to Anonymous)

Hello Anonymous,

Your vagina is inside of your body. I am assuming he rubbed his penis on the outside on your pubic area.

The itching and odor could indicate an infection. You may want to schedule an appointment to be examined by your gynecologist.


April 6, 2017 - 10:05am
EmpowHER Guest

Thanks for the swift reply.

I'll also like to know if STIs and STDs can be contracted from grinding nude without penetration or ejaculation but possibly by discharge of pre-ejaculate.


April 5, 2017 - 2:28pm
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