Sex and relationship with my man

Hi Anonymous,
I agree you need to talk with him. It's on your mind (both having a baby and how your perception that people talk bugging you). It sounds like you need some reassurance, and it's my humble opinion that the best place is to hear it from your love so you can design a united front against the World. I have been through divorce, and know how it can do a number on your self-esteem particularly if the relationship was emotionally abusive in any way. I believe that the best revenge (on your ex and on those nay-sayers) is living well, and being happy. Avoid any drama.
You keep talking about how great the sex is...if the sex wasn't so great, would you still be with him? Or is your relationship based on it? There will very likely come a time when the sex won't be as (whatever it is) without a lot of hard work on both your parts.
Another thing to consider: If you place so much value in what other people think, are you living for you? Or are you living to impress others?
Think about all this, and talk with your man. You're ready for the next step, you may want to figure out if he is too so you can proceed toward the direction you want to go. I'm confident that if he's as great as you say he is, you will come to a mutual decision about your future together.
There is a Group here about women with much older men. It may be good for you to communicate with them and learn from their experiences also. Or start your own Group for women with younger men:
https://www.empowher.com/groups/large-age-difference-me-and-my-boyfriend-husband
Good luck and let us know how it all turns out.

Hi Anonymous,
Thank you for your post, and for finding Empowher. I'm not sure what advice you're looking for. Are you wanting someone to tell you it's OK to have a baby with this man? You said you love him and want to spend the rest of your life with him, so what's the problem? Other people talking? People will find things to talk about, so try and not worry about that--if you weren't a blended family with age differences, they still would talk about the condition of your lawn, how you scold/don't scold your kids, or something else, so it's senseless to let it get to you. If it's the age difference that truly bugs you, there's nothing you can do about that except consider for yourself how important it is to you. Forget your amazing sex life, forget his kids, your kids, and any pending child. Do you love this man? Deep-down-to-your-bones love him? Would you walk across a desert to bring him a cup of water? Then again, I ask you, what's the problem?
Mind you, I'm not a therapist. But if I was in your shoes, I would ask myself, "why am I getting in my own way?" Go live your life! Yeah, it's complicated, even crazy at times, but would you have it any other way? That is the great thing about where we live, and who we are: we have choices, and can adapt to change. Right?
I hope this helps...if I haven't please let me know how I may try to help you better. It sounded to me like you were looking for a pep talk. If I was off the mark, please steer me in the correct direction.
Take care, and good luck.
-Christine