I have been dating this guy for years now. He's a great guy and we get along so well and do lots together since we have much in common.
After a year and a half or so, our sex life started to suffer. Determined to fix things, I recently asked again what was the problem. He begrudgingly told me that he was less attracted to me now
I was mortified and hurt beyond belief. It's always been a touchy spot for me and he knows that.
I never thought this would be an issue, given he'd dated women much larger than me, though those relationships didn't work out well. Plus, the shocker was that I haven't gained since putting the initial weight back on 3 years ago. I still wear some clothes from high school! The difference in the past year is that he's lost weight and I've stayed roughly the same.
I want to loose weight, but on my own terms and in a way that I know it will stay off. I don't feel I should have to change myself, because I'm not that fat and like having curves. He's not asked me to loose weight. He says he doesn't want to break up and that he still loves me. But then why bring it up to begin with?
I keep thinking, "what if i have kids and gain weight?", which he says wouldn't be a factor because I'd be mother to his kids. But how can I trust that? It's easy to say now. It's like the trust is gone.
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