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why wont my bf have sex with me?

By January 19, 2011 - 12:52am
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Im 21 and my Bf is 20. We have been going out for 1 yr exactly. but the last 3 months we haven't had sex. I really want to have sex with im. but he just doesnt seem interested. we have talked about the issue and he doesnt know why he doesnt want to have sex. He just doesnt feel like it. I have no idea what to do, I've tried to remain positive and hoped it would just be a phase hes going through. But its been 3 months and I dnt know how much longer this will last. I dont want to cheat or break up with him.

he changed his job three months ago, he stopped working out. hes healthy, but stresses about money, which is unnesscery cause we both are financially stable. He also doesnt want to have kids, which is fine cause i dont want any either. But he stresses about getting me pregnant. i have no idea what to do.

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Hi girl_89,
Thank you for your question and for joining EmpowHER. I'm sorry you are having to go through this. In a dating situation, you can assess how invested you are in the relationship--is this one you can build on, or is this lack of sex (for whatever his reason) deal breaker? We can't tell you what to do, we can only provide resources to help give insight. We hope it's helpful.

Just as every relationship is unique, so are the reasons or causes behind your partner's choices in his behavior towards you. We have compiled the “best responses” received from both men and women in regards to your specific question, and hope you read through them thoughtfully. Women have been going through similar struggles, and have shared their insight and lessons learned. Men have also shared why they did not want to have sex in their strained relationships. Please let us know what “words of wisdom” or “tips” resonated with you from the following articles:

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