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Post-Holiday Depression: Why Are You Feeling So Low After the Best Time of Year?

By Rheyanne Weaver HERWriter
 
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Though some people dread having to see their family around the winter holidays and don't enjoy Christmas shopping and the colder weather, others feel more depressed after the holidays are over, since they have to go back to the same routine, among other haunting realities. This is known as post-holiday depression. This can start after Christmas or similar holidays and/or after New Year's Day, depending on when a person celebrates.

According to an article on www.psychcentral.com, the possible causes of post-holiday depression are "unmet expectations, unrealistic resolutions, and a return of loneliness and guilt about overindulgence." For example, perhaps someone trys to give all her friends and family members gifts

and fails. Maybe a different person overspends and purchases gifts for everyone and is now in debt. Another person might try to lose 10 pounds after Christmas but just can't get motivated. Yet another might return to another state, away from family members. These all can happen and don't feel very uplifting, which can lead to depression in some people.

The author of the article suggested that people treat the holidays no differently than any other time of the year. Just because it's Christmas, Hanukkah or another holiday, it doesn't mean everyone has to pretend to be happy when they're not. That can be depressing by itself.

Post-holiday depression generally only lasts for a short period of time. If the depression lasts longer, it can be classified as a more "serious" type of depression, though all types of depression should be regarded with care. According to an article on Suite 101, post-holiday depression is considered more of a mental distress than a mental disorder, since it's so fleeting and makes a minimal impact for the most part on the person who has it.

The idea that post-holiday depression is short-lived can be found in an article from www.PennLive.com. The article compares seasonal affective disorder to post-holiday depression, saying that "SAD isn’t the post-holiday blues people tend to get in January or the cabin fever resulting
from being indoors for too long on shorter days and in inclement weather."

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Anonymous

Anonymous, many people feel the same way, including myself. One suggestion I read for the post Christmas blues is to go to New Orleans Mardi Gras in February each year. It is a blast and will give you something to look forward to. And then, summer is just around the corner!

January 18, 2016 - 9:11am
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Anonymous

One way I cope with the post Christmas blues is I leave most of my Christmas decorations up until the days get a little longer, mostly the lights. I have artificial trees so it does make it easier to do that. I start taking things down around Ash Wednesday / Beginning of Lent time. I also find if we have a good snow fall in January it helps my mood too. Good luck everyone. Also remember baseball pitchers report for spring training in early February. Spring is coming, hang in there.

January 4, 2016 - 6:38am
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Anonymous

"tries", not "trys". Editing, please!

December 29, 2015 - 11:37am
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Anonymous

I just found this article. I have a very hard time after the holidays are over. I just found myself arguing with customer service representatives, on the verge of tears, and just sad that everything is over. Whenever fall arrives, it's like "life" arrives. The season change is beautiful. It gets cool, vivid outside, and then the fun starts. Even though I am fully grown, I still love Halloween. And then you can look forward to Thanksgiving. Then to Christmas. There is happy music all over the place, all over the radio, Christmas commercials, movies, etc. You can go out and feel like a kid again when you drive through the city and see people decorate. And then it all comes to an abrupt stop. And what do you get in return? No holidays, cold, gray skies, stuck inside. It takes me a very long time to recover from the "loss" of Christmas. It takes me several months. It has been this way for about 5 years now. I guess because I feel like it's the one time of year that meets my spirit, sort to speak. It's not to say that I can't be happy year round. But there's something special about the last holidays of the year. I kind of wish Christmas just faded away gradually, little by little. I just don't understand myself, though. I never got this bad when I was a child. I don't personally subscribe to any of the feelings in the article. I don't feel guilty about spending, I don't feel any regrets, etc. I just feel happy and joyful and I can't seem to capture that magic throughout the year. Eventually I do, but I just feel a big loss after Christmas and I don't know how to explain it otherwise. I like summer. Summer is fun and light. But Christmas is life.

January 2, 2015 - 3:31pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

You put that so well. My post Christmas/holiday blues didn't hit until after New Years in full. But the past week or so has been full of a lot of bittersweet nostalgia on my part, thinking of the past, etc. Also, it was my wife and I first Christmas married and it was so special. We just took down the tree today and I feel bad about throwing it away, it gave us so much warmth and beauty over the past month! In fact I think I will recycle it in the woods as I can't bear to put it out for garbage men.

January 3, 2016 - 1:47pm
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Hey, Anonymous. Just had to comment that a lot of us feel that way (I'm dealing with the post-Christmas depression problem right now). Best I can figure, it has a lot to do with weeks of building up for Christmas and then -- bam! -- it's over in one day. As soon as we cross midnight on Dec. 25th, it's rather like we simply shrug our shoulders and get back to work.

It wasn't that way when we were kids, though. No, we had a couple of weeks off and Christmas was more like a cherished season than a day off from a job we hate.

The point is this -- returning to "normal" after a great holiday is tough for some of us adults who love the break from reality that Christmas affords us. I do believe, then, post-holiday depression has a lot to do with the fact that Christmas gives us an escape from a lot of unpleasantness, and that escape is over when the holiday is gone.

December 28, 2015 - 1:02am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Yes, that is a valid point. I agree and am already starting to feel the post-Christmas blues myself. (FYI - I was the one that responded earlier this month. And just so I don't mislead, I'm male, 44, and it goes to show this isn't only female-specific issue.) :)

December 28, 2015 - 2:06am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Hi, Anonymous. I felt compelled to write to you because I read your post after last Christmas and felt the same feelings you did. (I actually searched the web to see if others were feeling the same sadness I was feeling, or if it was just me.) Your note stuck with me through the year, and as we're now upon another Christmas season, I thought of your note and hoped you were enjoying this special time of year yet again. As I keep reminding myself, savor it while it lasts!

December 8, 2015 - 3:14am
Susan Cody HERWriter Guide (reply to Anonymous)

Hi Anon

Thanks so much for sharing your story. I have had the same issues. 

Anon, have you considered that you may have Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD)? It can be at any time of the year but is generally at it's worst in the winter months. Your symptoms and feelings are very similar to SAD. 

You can read more here: 

http://www.empowher.com/condition/seasonal-affective-disorder

We hope to hear back from you!

Susan

January 5, 2015 - 4:55pm
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Anonymous

Thanks

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