Last year, I was in a frantic state of anxiety when I arrived at my friend’s home. Running late, I actually tripped on Megan’s stairs just as she opened the door.
We both had a good laugh over my clumsiness, and once inside she could sense my angst. Apparently, it was written all over my face.
My first book, "A Widow’s Guide to Healing," was due to be published later that year, and I was wondering aloud how I could pull everything together.
I told Megan I had just gotten off the phone with the publishing house, and although everything seemed to be coming together on their end, I felt a tremendous responsibility to make this launch successful. I confided in her that I felt like I was going to be landing a fully loaded 747 plane with only one flying lesson.
Megan is in her mid-fifties, and was widowed a decade ago. She nodded, opened her arms and gave me a maternal hug.
Walking into her home, one immediately feels at peace. Although she is not a yoga teacher, her presence radiates an inner calm that I usually sense from yoga instructors. And while she has not authored a book, Megan has achieved some remarkable things and has successfully changed career paths a few different times.
Leaving the competitive advertising industry, she said, was done out of necessity to maintain her sanity. She went back to college at age forty.
I knew of the outward career shifts she had made, but I wasn’t aware of the inner process she went through to make the changes manifest. I took this opportunity to ask her about how she managed to make the transitions. Then, my friend leaned in, literally, and lowered her voice as if she was about to reveal the secret of it all.
She said something I never expected to hear— "Vision boards."
I caught myself laughing and then apologizing for laughing and being rude. I actually couldn’t believe what she was telling me.
After all, I had witnessed the long hours she spent at the library and local coffee shops studying and writing papers. I knew she worked various part-time jobs along the way to pay for her tuition, and even moved in with a family member for a year to save on rent.