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Bottoms Up! Tips for Anal Sex

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For a great portion of history, anal sex has been considered somewhat of a taboo activity. There are urban myths attached to its consequences and even biblical references to its sinful nature! But why? Sure, there are some things that you must keep in mind when engaging in anal play, but what has made it such a no-no in our social consciousness? After all, your butt is just another body part – and one that happens to have some extremely concentrated pleasure nerves! Definitely worth getting to know better…

I wanted to write this article in an attempt to begin a conversation that uncovers some of the mysteries, breaks down the stigmas surrounding anal sex for women and provide some resources for you to investigate on your own.

But first, a big disclaimer! Anal sex, (like EVERY form of intimacy) should only be practiced between consenting individuals. There is nothing sexy about forcing, threatening, or cajoling a partner into doing something he/she does not want to do. New positions and acts that one or both people are hesitant to take part in should always be prefaced, punctuated by and followed up with conversation.

Being Anal About Anal Sex:

1. Use a condom. Again – use a condom. Your anus is more prone to tearing than your vagina is, which allows for easier transmission of infection and disease (Think: HIV/AIDs and Sexually Transmitted Infections!). Even if you are in a committed relationship with someone you know to be disease-free, a condom is recommended, as it will improve efforts to maintain cleanliness and lubrication. Similarly, if you are using a strap-on or dildo, you should use a condom to prevent transmission of infection via the shared toy. Remember that even when using a condom, no sexual intercourse is risk free and anal sex is associated with some especially high risks.
(Read more at: http://www.fda.gov/forconsumers/byaudience/forpatientadvocates/hivandaidsactivities/ucm126372.htm )

2. Use some form of water-based lube because your anus, unlike your vagina, does not produce its own lubricant. The added moisture will facilitate entry, prevent tearing and enhance pleasure.

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Anonymous

I feel anal is something i do thats pleasurable for me and my hubby. I have a big butt for a white girl and my husband loves anal. We have 4 play then he works his magic. It does hurt sometimes and gets uncomfortable but then he makes fingers me and i can relax again. I LOVE IT

March 19, 2012 - 1:41pm

I'd also like to mention that HPV can be transmitted to the anal area without penetration. Even utilizing one's fingers for vaginal stimulation and then stimulating the anus or anal area the virus can easily be spread. With penetration and especially with the missionary style, secretions tend to "leak" from the vagina and pool below in the anal area, another way the virus can be carried to that area. From what I am aware of an orgasm anally can be far more intense than a vaginal orgasm - as an aside.

July 30, 2011 - 11:43am
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Anonymous

This article seems to equate anal sex with penetration by a penis or a penis analog. In my opinion it would be appropriate to discuss a wider variety of practices, many of which are capable of producing significant pleasure for participants with, apparently, fewer health-related concerns and -- for some -- less social and emotional baggage.

July 30, 2011 - 7:22am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Exactly!!!

September 23, 2015 - 5:56am
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Anonymous (reply to Anonymous)

Where can I get a penis anal log? I'd like to try one of those!

September 16, 2011 - 10:40am
HERWriter (reply to Anonymous)

Thanks very much for your comment - you are absolutely right. This article is written about anal penetration with a penis or similarly shaped toy - only one option in the world of anal. In my follow-up article I tried to expand the discussion to a wider range of anal play pleasure - I would love to hear your opinion on that post!

Very best!
hannah

July 30, 2011 - 7:51am

It's interesting (as shown by the comments above) how someone can be so against anal sex yet has probably never given a second thought to performing oral sex - how hypocritical.

On the issue of STI's however HPV (human papillomavirus) is far more likly to be contracted than AIDS. Affecting approximately 80% of the population, HPV usually has no symptoms which can result in diagnosis coming late and I think we all know that the earlier any condition is diagnosed the more likely for a better outcome. The HPV virus has been shown to cause genital warts which often occur around the anus whether you have had anal sex or not and wearing a condom can only reduce the risk so far.

Any sexually active adult should discuss HPV with their doctor. There is a vaccine available for both men and women up to age 26. HPV is responsible for 99.9% of cervical cancers and effects almost half a million women annally across the globe.

Sexual intimacy between two loving and consenting adults is not something to be ashamed about and it is the lack of education in others which results in the judgmental attitudes we see in society.

July 28, 2011 - 10:22am
HERWriter (reply to Bonnie Diraimondo RN)

Thank you very much for this informative and sensitive comment - I really appreciate your point on oral sex. Furthermore, HPV is a huge health concern AND a preventable one that we should all be aware of! We need people like you to keep us informed and remind us to be open/non-judgmental of others!

Best,
Hannah

July 28, 2011 - 11:03am

It's interesting (as shown by the comments above) how someone can be so against anal sex yet has probably never given a second thought to performing oral sex - how hypocritical.

On the issue of STI's however HPV (human papillomavirus) is far more likly to be contracted than AIDS. Affecting approximately 80% of the population, HPV usually has no symptoms which can result in diagnosis coming late and I think we all know that the earlier any condition is diagnosed the more likely for a better outcome. The HPV virus has been shown to cause genital warts which often occur around the anus whether you have had anal sex or not and wearing a condom can only reduce the risk so far.

Any sexually active adult should discuss HPV with their doctor. There is a vaccine available for both men and women up to age 26. HPV is responsible for 99.9% of cervical cancers and effects almost half a million women annally across the globe.

Sexual intimacy between two loving and consenting adults is not something to be ashamed about and it is the lack of education in others which results in the judgmental attitudes we see in society.

July 28, 2011 - 10:22am

Hanna:

This is a GREAT article!!!! Nice Job.

July 27, 2011 - 11:12am
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