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Gloria In Her Own Words

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The first time I met Gloria Steinem was at a Voters for Choice fundraiser. We'd spoken by phone before that -- I'll never forget the first time I heard her unmistakable voice on my voicemail. My friend Maureen was running Voters for Choice, and I was helping out whenever I could. When Gloria came to town for a dinner before Whoopi Goldberg's foul-mouthed hysterical show, Maureen sat me next to her, knowing that it would be a gift to me. It was. I was dumbstruck, so all I could think of to say was how much she has meant to me and to so many others. She looked me square in the eye and said the same could be said about me. I said I wasn't meaning to put myself down by putting her up on the pedestal (where she belongs), and she said okay then, she would accept the compliment.

By the time I met her, Gloria had married David Bale. Only a few months later, I heard that David was sick. I reached out to them since I've had so much experience with illness. And so began my telephone friendship with David, who was so afraid and so unhappy about what he was putting Gloria through. We talked for hours and hours. I loved our talks, no matter how hard they were, because of his British (South African, really) accent -- he called me "love," and I loved that. We talked about what illness was doing to him, what the meds were doing to him, what it was all doing to Gloria. It was a horrible time, but a gift to me. I didn't know I was particularly good at speaking to other people with illness until then.

David died and Gloria allowed me to be part of it. She sent me photos of him and of them with a gorgeous note. But most of all, she made me family. When I wrote an essay about David and how much our time had meant to me, she had me send copies to all of his children. When I visited her when she was ready after he died, she made me tea and introduced me to his dog (now hers) Moji, now also gone. She made me feel welcome.

She asked me for help for a neighbor. She came to see me in the hospital -- nothing could have made my surgeon happier than to meet her. She dragged me to the health food store.

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Thank you Jennifer, I am not the lonely soul but a retired nurse that does know about the human heart that is why this article touched me the way it did,I heard about Gloria Steinem but not to the extent of how I wish I knew of her and the work that she did elegantly and passionately in her early days.
I in my early days thought I was Florence Nightingale and thought I could save the world,but soon learnt I could only do what I could and leave it at that It was a life lesson for me and it was ok. I worked in Nursing Homes most of my life and seen alot .I don't have HBO and these are the times I wish I did,Thank you so much Jennifer I live to hear of wonderful people like yourself and Gloria.I find we are here to make a difference some how.

August 15, 2011 - 4:39pm
(reply to willalee)

I bet you've made a difference in a lot of lives. Nursing, especially in a nursing home, is seriously tough work. You're right -- we are here to make a difference. It doesn't have to be big; just giving a scared patient a little hope is plenty.

I hear the documentary will be out on DVD eventually. It was wonderful. When it comes out, you should rent it. Gloria is my friend and I knew most of her story, but it was still great to see it all put together so well. Jennifer

August 16, 2011 - 3:48am

I do my best also to be there for others to show kindness and compassion for people who are reaching out for the human touch even just for a little conversation or in need of some help you would be very surprised how lonely and invisable people are to others. It is so sad that we live in a world where we think we don't have time for people like ourselves and that maybe just maybe that could be us one day.
I am a people watcher and I have always been in tune with the way human nature is and I have learned through many others how we all can be good/bad towards each other,what makes us tick, and that a little kindness and time can really make a world of difference for a lonely soul.

August 15, 2011 - 10:25am
(reply to willalee)

Willalee, as a person with two chronic health illnesses which are invisible to all the world except those who know me well enough to see the pain in my eyes, I do understand. And you've hit on what's most remarkable about Gloria Steinem, as well. Regardless of the fact that she's super-famous and a true living legend, she is charmed by everyone she meets, and nobody is invisible to her. In case you ever feel like the lonely soul you refer to, I hope you will feel free to message me. I'm not Gloria, but I'm a pretty good listener. Jennifer

August 15, 2011 - 11:04am
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