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The start of my most recent period was on Feb 26 - projected ovulation date being March 14, projected next period March 28 (via MyMonthlyCycles, where I have been keeping track of my period for 1 year). Average cycle - 30 days.
We had protected intercourse on March 3 and 24. The condom didn't break; slipped down maybe an inch but we pushed it right back up.
Now my period is 3 or 4 days late (depending if you count the 28th), with no usual signs of cramping etc that I normally get. Took two HPT's and both came out negative. Discharge looks normal, no tenderness of breasts or anything. I have had a little bit of an upset stomach but I think I may just be getting sick - I am under quite a bit of stress.
I know it's unlikely that I am pregnant, but I am paranoid since I can't afford to have a child right now. I have heard that stress really can throw off a regular period (I have been regular for 8 years now), but I have a hard time believing it since I am so paranoid... help? I don't know what's wrong with me!
Have a GYNO appt coming up in a month, but I'm the type of person who likes to know without going to the doc! It sure would be nice if my period would come!
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Hi! I am very worried I might be pregnant. I had sex on day 33 of my cycle and my cycle usually runs between 28 to 32 days. So I was due for my period right then. However, I am now on day 39 of my cycle and still no period. That's at least a week late. What are the chances that I'm pregnant, and would a hpt give results yet? The anxiety is overwhelming.
June 27, 2009 - 4:01pmThis Comment
Hi, Anon, and welcome to EmpowHer. Thanks for your question.
The fact that he didn't ejaculate in you makes the chances of your being pregnant much lower, but that chance still exists. Men have something called "preejaculate," which comes out of their penises before ejaculation. Generally, withdrawal has a 25% failure rate over the course of a year, which means that of all couples using withdrawal as their birth control, 25% of them do become pregnant within a year. So the chance is still there. But it's more remote than if he were to have ejaculated inside you.
I think it's even more remote since you had sex on day 33 of your cycle. Personally, I am guessing that you are just late due to stress or change in your life, the heat, an increase in activity or a change in diet -- many things along those lines affect our hormones and can change our cycles.
But if you want to take a HPT to make sure, yes, by now it should be able to give you a good result. Many HPTs are set up to give you a result within 1 to 2 days after a missed period. HPTs measure for something called HGC, a hormone that is only found in pregnant women. They are sensitive enough to measure for small amounts.
Here's my question for you: If you pay for an HPT and it's negative, will you believe it? Or will you just think that maybe you should have waited longer to take it? Because if that's the case, you will waste your money on the test. We've had some questions lately from women who have taken tests more than once but still believe they might be pregnant. The truth is that until that period comes, we always feel a little anxiety about it, no matter how much it doesn't seem possible.
Do you need more information about birth control? Have you considered seeing a gynecologist or going to a clinic to have a checkup and get on some form of birth control? Or, at the very least, buying condoms so that you will have even less of a chance of pregnancy (and of sexually transmitted diseases)?
June 29, 2009 - 9:29amThis Comment
Hi,
I moved your question out of this discussion thread, into it's own separate ASK question.
You can read your question, and subsequent answers and discussion here: Am I pregnant: 17 year old, LMP April 28, unprotected sex with ex who now has new gf.
Thanks,
June 7, 2009 - 6:44amAlison B.
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I am actually a guy on here trying to get myself at ease, my girlfriend and I one night had unprotected sex for about 5 seconds, after messing around for about 10 minutes and then pulled out because we didnt want to risk anything, we then had sex the next week about 3 times with condoms. Shes under a large amount of stress right now. She failed her nursing exam, so she is set back now for next semester, her roomates are putting presure on her to make a decision on which roomate to live with, because the other two do not get along and they called her two faced when she did pick. Her grandma just had a heart attack and is in the hospital, and her mom and her are fighting. So im pretty sure its just stress, but its scaring the bajebus out of me.
HEEELLPP
May 29, 2009 - 3:55pmThis Comment
Hi, Anon:
While this site is focused on women's health, we do welcome questions from men. But, I'm confused what, exactly, you're asking us to help you with.
Are you trying to find answers on how to help your girlfriend deal with all the stresses? If so, the most you can do is be supportive of her and do not contribute to her stress by putting any demands on her. The last thing she needs is any fear of an unwanted pregnancy.
Be her friend, first.
May 29, 2009 - 4:17pmThis Comment
Let me add to, that i was her first sexual partner for about almost a year. Would her hormones be all out of wack now that she is having sex again?
May 29, 2009 - 4:25pmThis Comment
Just from what you originally wrote, I would think that the stresses she's under have her hormones out of balance. Has she done a home pregnancy test?
Was she very close to her grandmother?
May 29, 2009 - 4:34pmThis Comment
not yet, we are going to wait until Sunday, thats when it will be 5 days late. Im just freaking out about it.
May 29, 2009 - 4:38pmThis Comment
Anon, just thought I'd check in and see how things are going for you and your girlfriend. You said you were planning to do the HPT on Sunday; I'm hoping that either she got her period or that the test was negative? Please update us and let us know how you both are doing.
I know the feeling you speak of when everything seems like it's going crazy all at once. But you know what? THOSE are the times when you can be the best boyfriend. It's easy to be a great boyfriend in the easy times, when things are going well and are not stressful. You sound like a really good guy and I am sure she appreciates having a good friend who is also her boyfriend.
Listen to her, as it sounds like you have been doing. Occasionally do something small just for her. Be there when she just needs someone to hug her and say "I'm so sorry" about her grandmother. And don't freak out. You can rise to this challenge, bit by bit, day by day.
Like Alysia said, this is a good opportunity to talk about what you would ever do if she became pregnant, so there's a plan in place. And if she ends up not being pregnant, it's also a good time to talk about your commitment to birth control -- condoms are good, as long as you're always consistent and use them correctly.
Take care, and do let us know how things are going for the two of you. I respect you a lot for coming here and writing to us about this.
June 1, 2009 - 8:41amThis Comment
Back again, she has still not had her period, she took the test and it came out negative. I believe it was a First Response test kit as well, which have very good reviews online. Im sure its just the stress. She is taking the other test either today or tomorrow to be sure, since it will be close to 8 days missed. If it comes out negative again, which im sure it will, she is going in for a blood test.
Thanks for all the support, really makes everything a lot easier and very helpful.
Ryan
June 1, 2009 - 12:42pmThis Comment