Why Doesn't my boyfriend want to have sex with me anymore?

The same thing is going on with me! I am 26 and my boyfriend is 23. We've been together for over a year and we never fight. We get along and are very happy. For the first couple of months we had sex 1-5 times a day. Then it slowly went to once or twice a month. I asked him whats wrong and he said nothing. He told me he is very contempt and happy and doesnt need sex to fill the void he used to have. He views sex as a degrading thing to women. He also told me that he doesnt want to degrade me because this is how he felt when he had sex with previous girls he didnt care for. This could be what is happening to you! It is also happening to my married friend. I also learned that my boyfriend was molested when he was 5 and again when he was 8. This may be why he views sex as degrading. I have learned to deal with the lack of sex. And when he is ready to go to a counsler we will go. Its sad at times, but sex is not everything. Other than that we have a great relationship.

Have you tried going to counseling. My boyfriend are in the same boat. I can be totally nude in front of him and he will not even look at me. Which hurts my feeling, cause before he will always could not get enough of me. I know that when he was married before on cheated on her, and I have been hurt before, Do guys really change if they cheated before. I asked my boyfriend why he cheated on his wife then and he stated because he was not happy with her, and let's say she was not giving it up. so, what is going on I do not want to hear the exuse it is me not you.

Thank you google... I am not alone!
I'm 26 my boyfriend is 32. We once had an amazing sex life, this slowed down, obviously as our relationship came out of the honeymoon period. We have now been together 4.5 years and I don't think I can do this much longer. Went to once a week and is now once every few weeks. Argh! I am very sexual woman and this used to be something he was very excited about but now seems like a hinderance! I have said things, heard the usual... Tired etc, he once said stop pressuring me. I gave up coming on to him, so it has been infrequent and on his terms for a year now. We are different emotionally and I am more tactile than him which is something I could live with if I was getting my needs fulfilled. I no longer feel loved or appreciated. I have just lost my 19 year old sister and realise that life is far too short to not be as happy as you possibly can be. We are going on holiday next week and this will be my last ditch attempt to revamp our relationship. If this doesn't work I will be letting him know exactly what I want out of our relationship and will not settle for less than what I need/want, he can then choose if he wants me or not. I know this may sound harsh but hey if the shoe was on the other foot he woulda cheated or left by now. Oh yeah on that note i don't believe he has cheated as we live together, he rarely goes out, doesn't hide his phone etc...
Aside from my plan would be grateful for any input

Hi girls,

I have posted here a couple of times already. After reading all these posts I feel like we all have the exactly same problem. The point is: aren´t we, these women all similar in some way?? What do the successful women have and we don´t??? Is it self confidence? Or something else?? I would really like anybody to think about this and advice in any way... I am sure this is the problem. What do you think??? thank you

Ida

the second half of your post totally did not register...
what i have to say for that part is if he's cheated once, he may do it again, so be on the lookout for signs of that too. Im sorry to say, but that's really possible.

i remember me and my boyfriend, when we started having sex, we did it a lot, but recently its decreased a lot. it sucks, but im slightly ok with it because he was recently diagnosed with depression, which is known to lessen a guy's want or mood for sex. There might be something your guy isnt telling you, try to keep notice on his moods, how he is eating and sleeping.

Thank you for your question. Cheating is a hard thing to deal with on both sides. He feels like he has let you down and men tend to not want to deal with the emotional baggage that we need as women to feel as if it will not happen again. In men's eyes, sex is not an emotional attachment and we think completely different. As for the woman's side, we need them to be sorry for the deed as well as make us feel like we are number one again after the indiscretion. See where there will be a disconnect? Understanding these ideologies may help understanding him.

When he cheated before, did the sex slow down or were you in the same predicament as you are now? Are you seeing the signs of infidelity?

I need some advice. I have been dating my boyfriend for about a year and 3 months, and at first the sex was great. We had sex everyday, up to 3 times a day. It has slowly gotten less and less. Now we are down to once per week, but I feel like it is going to be more now. He told me that he doesn't like when I touch him intimately, it makes him feel uncomfortable... I just don't understand why it would make him feel that way. We used to touch each other all the time. I liked that we could intimately touch without it meaning anything. Just because we are touching each other, doesn't mean we have to have sex. Now, he won't touch me. He kisses me and says he loves me, but it's almost like my sexual areas are off-limits. I hate it, because he actually did cheat on me, before we hit our one year, and I decided to stay with him and move to florida with him because he swore it wouldn't happen again and I wanted to give him another chance. Because he cheated on me, I almost need more attention in every aspect and I'm not getting it. I love him so much, but I feel so hurt, I just don't know what to do. I can't help feeling he is attracted to somebody else now. Why wouldn't he want to have sex with me? Please help me!

that was really mean to say,,,just because he is not having sex with her doesn't mean he is having sex with someone else...really, if you think that i suggest you start doing a little investigating and find out on your own if that is the reason he isn't having sex with you. i know me and my bf had sex all the time and now not very often and thats ok. i mean if he is making you that miserable go get it somewhere else. my man just works all the time and i can relate to him being tired.