Divorce Resource Advocate Linda Kazares discusses the actions you should consider before filing for divorce.
When discussing a strained marriage we often overlook really kind of an incremental step – separation.
It isn’t always important to go right from thinking about divorce to divorce. Sometimes there’s an interim period in there that you can use to evaluate what the problem is, is there really a problem? Is that really the right next step?
So a couple of things to think about, when you start getting this inkling that things aren’t just right.
First seek out the help of a professional counselor, perhaps somebody from your church, and just talk to them, you know, forest for the trees kind of thing.
May be you are just not seeing the big picture. It’s not all about you, it’s a lot about the people around you.
So get help kind of straightening that out in your mind and then if you really think that maybe divorce is still on the horizon think about separation.
Maybe a physical separation is something that would, again, help you and your spouse step back.
Part of it also depends on how aligned you and your spouse are in terms of where you are at in your relationship, particularly if they are kind of at the same point, you have been talking and you both know you are somewhat unhappy.
Maybe again, separating and stepping back and taking a look at what are the real options? Maybe it’s co-counseling.
Maybe it’s taking a longer time to think about it or maybe it’s you are not sitting across the table pounding on it saying I am right, I am right.
Separate, think about it and then decide to stay together or move on to divorce.
About Linda Kazares:
She is the author of several marketing books and was a consultant to Fortune 500 technology companies. During her 35+ years as an entrepreneur, she has been divorced twice, produced of 50 conferences and has been married for 13 years happily for a third and final time. She has created the ConnectedIn Divorce Resource website to make available qualified information and education for individuals considering, in the process of or after divorce.