Divorce Resource Advocate Linda Kazares shares tips for a successful marriage.
So there are few tips that I’d like to give to women based on my experience as a divorcee and you’ve heard this over and over again, it really is communication.
My first two marriages, there basically was no communication. The first one stayed together because we had planned a lot of trips and I wanted to make sure that I went on all those trips. So we never really talked about things.
My second marriage, the same thing. We both thought we were smarter than the other person so why would we talk to that person about what our problems and issues were?
We just sort of pretended like there weren’t any. Today, just communication, that’s probably the biggest tip and having a husband like mine who just, everything is okay with him and I don’t mean in a wishy-washy way but he loves me.
The second tip to a successful marriage that I found is turn off the machines, turn off the phone.
We are just so inundated these days with so many other ways to communicate that sometimes we forget to communicate face-to-face, eye-to-eye with the person that we love the most.
Recently it was brought to my attention because I tend to be a triple A workaholic kind of person and I am getting back into it again, and I went, holy cow, I am doing it again.
I am not paying enough attention to him. I am not giving him the emotion and the affection that he deserves because work’s going to go away some day, he is my heart. So turn off your cell phone.
Send text message every now and then. I’ll tell you my husband is better at that form of communication or at communicating with me.
I’ll get cute little text during the day and it always comes with a little rose emoticon on it or a little emoticon with the arms going yeah, you’re doing a great job today. So one of the things I have had to learn is to reciprocate because he is so good at it.
And then the third tip, which is again something that was hard for me to learn, is to do as much as you can to love his family, to love his children.
Hard lesson for me to learn again. I have a lot of step children, given three marriages and have learned that it’s not all about me. It really isn’t all about me. It’s really all about the family.
About Linda Kazares:
She is the author of several marketing books and was a consultant to Fortune 500 technology companies. During her 35+ years as an entrepreneur, she has been divorced twice, produced of 50 conferences and has been married for 13 years happily for a third and final time. She has created the ConnectedIn Divorce Resource website to make available qualified information and education for individuals considering, in the process of or after divorce.