Divorce Resource Advocate Linda Kazares explains why it is not always the best idea to tell the kids about an unfaithful spouse.
I talk to women all the time about the many reasons that people get divorced and one reoccurring theme is the cheating spouse. It could be the man or the woman.
What I have come to learn is that it’s really not important for the children to know why the divorce happened particularly when it’s around a cheating spouse.
I know a family who, the parents tried to use that as a tool against the other and there were a couple of kids in the family, a few of them found out about it, one of them didn’t.
The two that found out about it split their allegiance. One became the father’s daughter, the other became the mother’s daughter.
Well the third child, a boy, who didn’t know anything about this, today is the only one with a really healthy relationship.
So take it upon yourself to decide what the right thing is but never ever use a cheating spouse as a tool to split your family up.
About Linda Kazares:
She is the author of several marketing books and was a consultant to Fortune 500 technology companies. During her 35+ years as an entrepreneur, she has been divorced twice, produced of 50 conferences and has been married for 13 years happily for a third and final time. She has created the ConnectedIn Divorce Resource website to make available qualified information and education for individuals considering, in the process of or after divorce.