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I'm recently married and my new husband and I have started talking about having a baby together. Not right away, but maybe we'd start trying in the next year or two. I have a couple of teenagers from my previous marriage and this is his first marriage (no kids). The problem is timing - we're not getting any younger!! We're both in our 40's - I'll be turning 45 later this year, and when I had my last baby at age 31, I thought I was totally done having kids. I never would have dreamed I'd even be thinking about another baby, but of course I never ever dreamed I'd get divorced and then remarried.
My question to other moms out there is what your opinion is on having a baby later in life. I'd love to know ALL your feelings on this. At the moment, I'm so enjoying my teenagers and love the fact that they're each becoming so independent and that we can do so many fun things together. I love my independence as well, and how much easier this part of my life is. As much as I'd love to have a baby with my husband at some point, I'm wondering if adding a new baby into the mix would be completely insane at this "middle-aged" stage of the game. What do you think? I could sure use some advice!
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I really appreciate all of your stories. I will be 45 in 3 months . My husband and have a 5yr old son. In the last 3 yrs we had 2 miscarriages. so I had pretty much given up on having a baby on my own. However the desire to have another baby never went away. But after reading yr stories I feel inspired that it is possible . Thank you ladies for giving me hope again . Whether I get pregnant or not its OK. As long as I continue t
March 23, 2015 - 2:54pmtry.
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Am little bit worry but i have trust in God that anything its impossible to God am getting marry this year my hsb is 40yrs and 44yrs we both have children on our ex partness he wanted to have child on mi so badlly i have 4 beatiful chldrn 3 boys and 1 grl.I believe that i can make it.I found very interested about this story that a read here .
March 12, 2015 - 2:28amThis Comment
I am 45 and just found out I am pregnant! I am very excited but also scared. I have two sons 13 and 6 and I thought I was done having kids! It can happen ladies! Stay positive and healthy! Blessings do come and this is a great time for my family. I am only 11 weeks but so far so good!
March 10, 2015 - 12:43amThis Comment
How are you feeling physically? Can your body handle having a baby? Because, I am also 45 and I now have to have reading glasses, I have allergies..What do you think?
March 14, 2015 - 10:35amThis Comment
I met my partner just before I turned 44 & miraculously found out I was pregnant 8 weeks later.
February 24, 2015 - 12:22pmI have had endrometriosis which was removed at age 33 and never reoccurred, but I was convinced I was unable to conceive let alone carry full term after 2 previous miscarriages. I was also scared to be honest, as I have never had a full term pregnancy.
I terminated due all of the above and my partner already had two children he is responsible for - and since we did not really know each other, I thought it best. I had a IUD Merina inserted as contraception so I would not need to go through the tough decisions again.
Now almost a year later, I desperately want a baby.
My partner and I are still together and I am thinking about removing my Merina to try again.
I am scared - am I making a selfish mistake?
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Sorry that you are receiving some harsh judgement from others on this site. It is a very difficult decision to terminate a pregnancy, no doubt you did not take it lightly. There seems to be one pattern in your comments that I find troubling (for your sake). You were scared when you conceived, and you are now scared again. Having a child is an act of faith, courage and love. You get what you get. You may have a wonderful, healthy, loving child. Or you may get a child that is not fully healthy or not very happy, etc. Whatever you do, understand that you cannot have a child for "selfish" reasons. Having a child is all about giving. Giving your love, your attention, your time, your money, your energy. It is extremely demanding on a relationship and on your body. You need to move on from being scared and say "Am I ready to be a grown up and give, give, give?" If you can do that, then talk to your partner to make sure you have support in your relationship. Best of luck to you!
March 23, 2015 - 6:48amThis Comment
Thank you for all of these wonderfully inspiring stories!!! I will turn 45 later this month and just recently discovered I am expecting. I am recently remarried and my husband has 3 children from a previous marriage (all teens) and we tried to conceive right after we married with no luck, opted not to try fertility treatments, and just sort of readjusted our vision of the future... and what do you know, I turn up pregnant!! It has been so hard to find ANYTHING positive about pregnancy at this age- I have been searching for anything positive to hold on to. I know we have a long road ahead of us but these posts give me hope and make me think I am NOT crazy for doing this!!!
February 13, 2015 - 10:16amThis Comment
I Am 45 and had a baby 3 months ago! I also have an 18,16 and 13year old! I too was worried about all the issues mentioned. But let me tell you that it is the one of the best things to happen to us! We love him so much , he has complimented our already gorgeous brood . I am so
March 24, 2015 - 11:55amMuch more relaxes and patient. We are thinking of trying again v soon to give him a play mate. Good luck
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Great comment thank u x
May 22, 2015 - 12:58amThis Comment
Just turned 44 yesterday, and 24 weeks pregnant with my 5th baby. Everything is going well, and I feel great. It was a big surprise... i have a 23yr boy, and 19, 18 and a 4 1/2 yr old girls. We were using the fam method and i keep good track of my cycles, so it appears i ovulated many days earlier this time round, and feel so blessed that there is another little beauty coming into our lives.
Only at my family Dr. insistance did i go for a quad scree and 20 week ultrasound. i didn't want to get tests, because it woudn't have changed anything, i will love this baby no matter what... tests came back with excellent results. while i know it will be a while before i have "my freedom", the blessing of these little ones is a far greater gift. if it is what you really want in your heart, and is meant to be, it will be a blessing.
February 8, 2015 - 11:55pmThis Comment