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I'm recently married and my new husband and I have started talking about having a baby together. Not right away, but maybe we'd start trying in the next year or two. I have a couple of teenagers from my previous marriage and this is his first marriage (no kids). The problem is timing - we're not getting any younger!! We're both in our 40's - I'll be turning 45 later this year, and when I had my last baby at age 31, I thought I was totally done having kids. I never would have dreamed I'd even be thinking about another baby, but of course I never ever dreamed I'd get divorced and then remarried.
My question to other moms out there is what your opinion is on having a baby later in life. I'd love to know ALL your feelings on this. At the moment, I'm so enjoying my teenagers and love the fact that they're each becoming so independent and that we can do so many fun things together. I love my independence as well, and how much easier this part of my life is. As much as I'd love to have a baby with my husband at some point, I'm wondering if adding a new baby into the mix would be completely insane at this "middle-aged" stage of the game. What do you think? I could sure use some advice!
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For some reason your comment strikes a chord with me. You are very genuine and realistic. This is what happens in life; we meet our partners at all different times in life and have kids at all different ages. In spite of the calendar years being chronological, life isn't. It unfolds in unknown ways which is a good thing :)
November 13, 2014 - 10:54amThis Comment
I have always wanted children but my first marriage was abusive & resulted in no children (perhaps for the best anyway). When I remarried just before my 40s, my new husband was supportive (even though he has 2 adult children) & had a reversal. Years went by with every treatment under the sun. Nine years later & 48 years old, my dream to be a mother came true. Our baby makes me more home bound & friends have dwindled but hearing the sweet chattering, coos & squeals of delight makes these life changes so worth it. Our baby is keeping both of us young :)
July 2, 2014 - 8:39pmThis Comment
Hello anonymous. I am in a similar position that you were in. My new husband has children from a previous relationship and I do not. We have talked about having a child together but he's had a vasectomy and I am 45 years old! I am so undecided for a number of reasons. 1. My age associated with fertility 2. The success rate of his vasectomy reversal and 3. The complications that could arise because of my age (defects or abnormalities in the baby). It's just such a worry. I guess I'm just looking for a little reassurance.....
August 24, 2014 - 1:13amThis Comment
I am 42, husband is 44 he has a child from previous marriage I thought I couldn't have children but fell pregnant this year but lost it. Now I know I can I desperately want one, but my husband thinks he is now too old, and his child is 13 feels his sleepless night days are over. I just want him to say let's have a baby!
September 15, 2014 - 2:48amThis Comment
Thats such a lovely story that gives me hope!!! Even better that its recent.
July 28, 2014 - 11:09amThis Comment
Hi all I had my daughter at 42 thoroughly enjoyed being a mum again think I had more patience and was more laid back than with my other children x i say go for it best of luck xx
June 3, 2014 - 4:03pmThis Comment
I had my son at 42. It is possible to get pregnant after 40. I started trying to get pregnant at 36, at 40 I started fertility treatments and tried acupuncture a few times. Within the next 18 months I did 6 rounds of fertility treatments resulting in 4 miscarriages. I was in the unexplained category. Husband sperm count was great, all of my numbers were great. After my 4th miscarriage, I was ready to give up. That was in Nov 2010. In January 2011 I met an acupuncturist that seemed like she really knew her stuff. I started seeing her twice a week for 3 weeks and she also gave me bags of "stuff" to make a tea out of and drink daily. It was herbs, twigs, and other stuff. Then I started going once a week (couldn't afford more). I ovulated 5 weeks after seeing her, and 2 weeks later had a positive pregnancy test. I was nervous to get excited and continued to see her weekly until I was 16 weeks. I am happy to report I had my son at 37 weeks due to blood pressure issues and he is happy healthy 2 yr old. I will be 45 in June and we are going to start trying for our 2nd child next month. Hopefully acupuncture will do the trick again and I will get pregnant quickly.
January 27, 2014 - 10:03pmThis Comment
Hello
March 15, 2014 - 4:40pmCongratulations for your baby. I would like to get pregnant too, I am 46. Could you let me know who is your acupuncturist & where is her office located. I'll apreciate it a lot.
Thanks
Mei-Ling
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I am happy for all of you. I want to have one more baby but am divorced and 43.
January 8, 2014 - 5:50pmSo crossing my fingers
keep me in the loop
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i am 40 been trying baby for 12 months no luck. is that mean i cant get.pregnat? we dont have regular sex with my partner twice month used ovalation test a few times where happy face shows mean you r ovaleted but i still didnt get pregnant. amy period is regulary 26 days. i had blood test about fertility hormons the result was normal 55
November 17, 2013 - 7:20pmi dont get pregnant because i am too old or need more time to try
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