Is 45 too old to have a baby??

hi im in the same position im 44 and i have 3 children 24,18,16 the 18 yr old is pregnant the 24 yr old is trying with his fiance but i got married 7 months ago he is 37 and doesnt have any children we have lost one but now do we try again my families oppinion is i should be enjoying life and granchildren i can see what they mean as i bought my 3 up for 12yrs on my own

I won't say having a baby at 45 was easy - but it was such a blessing. I wasn't healthy to start with and it wasn't a planned pregnancy, so I ended up with Gestational Diabetes, Cholestasis, Pre-eclampia as well as my underlying conditions of Fibromyalgia and hyperparathyroidism. I was induced at 38weeks as they were expecting her to have low blood sugar, jaundice etc - but she was perfect. She was a healthy 7lb 7oz and is now a beautiful and happy 16month old :) I wouldn't change it for the world.

TLC did a special on women having babies in the 5o's through the 70's. The latter was in India. Other in Uk and America. You only have one life enjoy it and have your kids. There really in no time to waste in the 40's. Time is so precious!

TLC did a special on women having babies in the 5o's through the 70's. The latter was in India. Other in Uk and America. You only have one life enjoy it and have your kids. There really in no time to waste in the 40's. Time is so precious!

Personally I don't think 45 is too old to have a baby but you should start now! I didn't meet my 2nd husband until I was 36 and we started trying straight away for a baby. I fell pregnant within 3 months of trying but unfortunatley lost that one. I fell pregnant again quickly after that and went on to have a beautiful girl at the age of 37. 9 months later I fell pregnant with my second child at the age of 39. I am now 44 (will be 45 in October) and thinking of having a 3rd. The reason I didn't have a 3rd earlier on was purely down to the small age gap between my children (17 months) I just felt that throwing another baby in would have been too much work. My children are still dependant on me at the ages of 5 and 7 but not as much as they were so feel I would have more time for a baby now. I am physically fit and work out 3 times a week so I'm hoping I can get pregnant but am I being selfish when I already have two healthy young children??? would love you hear your opinions.

Ah. I have gone back and forth with this topic for so long it is ridiculous. I have had I miscarriage at 16 (just cells reproducing,not a pregnancy) and proceeded to have 4 ectopic pregnancies and two failed rounds of invetro. I would love to give my current fiance a baby so he could see what it is like to raise a child from beginning to end. I of course go back and forth with it, but really, I would love to be a mother. I am filled with so much love for everyone around me and I would love to pass that on to a child of my own who I would cherish with all my heart. I am 44, will be 45 in November of 2012. Problem, I have no insurance and invetro is sooooo expensive. The want is there, but the insurance and the funds (to pay for the invetro) are not. What to do?

I'm writing this knowing that it is quite some time since the original question was asked, but wanted to share my experience with anyone newly reading this and considering getting pregnant at 45 or so years old. I am now 44 and have two wonderful children, 6 and 7 years old respectively. My husband and I had a hard time getting pregnant to begin with, had two failed IVF treatments and numerous inseminations. After finding a new doctor who simply gave me a medication called metformin, I was pregnant within weeks. Two months after delivering my first I went back on the medication and was immediately pregnant with our second. Since we thought I could never get pregnant without the metformin we never used any form of birth control after the second, also with the thought that if we ever were blessed with another pregnancy it would be a welcome gift.

Well, after six years of regular marital relations and no thought of birth control, just two months ago we found out I was pregnant. I am now 44 years old and would be one month shy of my 45th birthday as the due date. I was shocked at my complete panic when I saw the test result was positive due to the reality of how old I will be at the start of this baby's life. I called my doctor and begged them to let me come in immediately to figure out that this test was wrong.

Long story short, the test was not wrong. I told my husband when he got home from work and cried my eyes out. I knew I couldn't take the chance of the much higher risk of problems with the baby ranging from Downs Syndrome to autism to a myriad of psychological problems that do plague babies born to older parents versus younger parents.

Completely contrary to what we had always thought would be a wonderful thing if it happened to come about, my husband and I decided to err on the side of caution and end the pregnancy for our fears of not only the baby's health, but our own health. We would be in our 60's and 70's respectively when this child turned 20. That's just not fair. As it is, in our opinions, we are pushing the envelope with out age versus health with regard to the children we do have, not to mention the fact of having to put off retirement to raise another child, send him/her to college, etc.

I beg you to seriously think about what it would be to have a baby at such a late stage in life when you should be finally thinking about retirement and slowing down and enjoying your free time as you get older, not starting over with an infant.

We never in a million years would have thought that we would have terminated a pregnancy. I am still in shock over everything that has happened in the last couple of months. The feeling of loss for the baby that was concieved in love that will never be. The guilt and regret, yet still knowing it was the right decision for all involved. It's a terrible thing and had I not gotten pregnant I guarantee you I would still be saying, "oh, don't worry, if are fortunate enought to get prenant it will be a welcome addition to our family." I said that many times and can't even begin to understand what I was thinking knowing what I now know. The reality is very different from the possibility of what might be.

As a result we are now using two forms of birth control (condoms and the pill) and I am scheduled to have a tubal ligation with the Essure method to make sure that this will NEVER happen again.

If after giving this a serious amount of thought you still decide that you would be okay with having a baby at 45, I do hope that you don't have the reality hit you and you have to make one of the hardest decisions of your life that you will have to live with forever.

Good luck with whatever you decide.

If your going to do it, do it. literally one month you have your peroid the next you don't. they stopped completly at 45.