First off, I am 38 and my boyfriend is 22. He is an old soul, I am a young one. I am getting ready to move to Seattle to move in with my boyfriend. I am overweight. In the beginning of our relationship - we met on a video game - I didn't take him seriously because of his age and distance and kept him at bay. Also because I didn't take him seriously, I sent him older pictures of me. When things began to take a turn and I started to have feelings for him, I came clean. He said it didn't matter to him. When we met for the first time, things were great. But he did say to me that my weight is an issue for him and he found himself not attracted to my weight, but he loved everything else about me. He has been encouraging with the weight loss. My problem is...as accepting as he as been with my weight....I feel the absence of his affection. He tells me if he wants more of my affection, I need to lose the weight.
He made a decision to stay in this relationship even though I wasn't upfront about my weight and I am grateful for that. But sometimes, I feel really alone in this. He tells me he wants me to move in with him, but I am so nervous about it. When we get into arguements, it is typically about his lack of attention. Which leads to him referring back to my weight and the decision he made to stay in this relationship. I am just thoroughly confused. He says he loves me, but I do not want feel alone in this relationship. I know that I cant blame him for being attracted or not attracted to certain body types. I probably wouldn't date myself if I was a guy. So, do I trust that the attraction will come back?
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