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ask: Should I Get Professional Help For Such Thing?

By Melissa6666
 
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Hi, I have a kind of family problem and it's a long story though. In such matter I'm stuck in between and I'm actually seeing a social worker but it's not good enough for me. I'm only 99 percent comfortable with her. To make it brief story here is what I have to say. My father has problems in all kinds of way and he usually is the source of all kinds of problems. My mother stopped talking to him for few years now and out of the blue In January she started talking to him, she made herself religious, her talking and behavior changed and she is not herself anymore. I'm 30 years old and I'm more than ready to move out on my own but it's financial issue for me. I'm working towards my goals in every way I can but meanwhile with the way things are in my house it's gone to far. From the way my mother is it shows she is bothering herself and bothering me. She has a lot on her mind, has stress and anxiety and more than half the problem is because of my father. What ever I tell my mother nothing helps. She keep saying I have bad thoughts. Only God knows whats inside her head. She is driving me crazy and herself and I can't take it anymore. I don't have anyone close to talk to and seeing social worker is not good enough for me. I want someone who is a expert who can help me especially with the way my mother is to stop her insanity. I don't know what more to do or say. What kind of person you think I should talk to or see on behalf of my mother? Would this sound right to you? Please let me know soon.

Thank You,
Melissa

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Maryann Gromisch RN Guide

Hello Melissa,
I am sorry to hear that the relationship with your parents is so stressful. Everyone needs someone to talk with and confide in.

From the little bit that you have shared, I think you would benefit from seeing a psychiatrist. Do you think your parents would consider seeing a psychiatrist or getting family counseling?

Regards,
Maryann

November 25, 2013 - 5:45pm
Melissa6666 (reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

Thank you for your reply. I don't really speak to them for seeing such people. I just do what I see is right. As a psychiatrist would you think this is something that I should go on their behalf? I'd feel real odd going to see such person. Please let me know what do you think.

Thank You,
Melissa

November 25, 2013 - 8:00pm
Maryann Gromisch RN Guide (reply to Melissa6666)

Hello Melissa,

You should seek the professional help of a psychiatrist to help you with your issues and how to cope with your parents. Moving out of your parent's house and being independent would certainly make life better for you.

Regards,
Maryann

November 26, 2013 - 5:21pm
Melissa6666 (reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

Thank you for your reply. As moving out on my own I want this more than anything. I'm one person with two hands and I'm working on this in every way I can which is my new year resolution to.
Seeing a psychiatrist would it be the right thing I'm doing? I'm starting to feel very awkward by just thinking of it compare to going there. I don't even know how to tell the psychiatrist the issue I have going on. I don't want her to think that I'm weird or something. When I go to the psychiatrist what would you think they would do as a first visit? I obviously don't have problem or anything since I'm seeing a psychiatrist it's mostly my parents and sister and I'm worried with the way my mother is. I'm really exhausted from all these things going on and when I don't know what else to do I end up crying. When I go to see a psychiatrist should I stop going to my social worker? Please let me know soon.

Thank You,
Melissa

November 29, 2013 - 11:10pm
Maryann Gromisch RN Guide (reply to Melissa6666)

Maryann Gromisch RN Guide 69.118.130.141 new

Hello Melissa,

You should seek the professional help of a psychiatrist only if you want to and feel that you can speak openly and honestly. If you cannot share all the things that are bothering you, then you would be wasting your time and the physician's time.

Based on your multiple posts and questions about your personal health and concerns, I think talking with a psychiatrist would be one of the best gifts you could give yourself. It is apparent that you have issues with your family members and these issues are affecting you. Talking honestly with a trained professional might get you on the right track to making your new year resolution a reality.

No, you do not need to stop seeing your social worker, unless you want to.

Regards,
Maryann

December 3, 2013 - 5:47pm
Melissa6666 (reply to Maryann Gromisch RN)

Thank you for your reply. My posts regarding my health concerns is completely different and the issues because of my parents and sister are completely different as well. I have scoliosis, PCOS and TMJ which I'm in treatment for and because of scoliosis many of my issue is a in between issue which is mostly because of my back. Because of my parents and sister it's a completely different story and they are not a type of people to understand anything which is a huge problem. I don't really deal with them anymore. I just ignore which is a little relief for me. I'm going to think about psychiatry regarding my parents and sister and I might go.

Which reminds me to ask you something if you do a CT of the stomach I want to know does it show your colon? If you feeling constipated would the CT show the problem? Please let me know.
Thank You,
Melissa

December 3, 2013 - 8:26pm
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