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We've been dating for over a yer now but in the last few months our sex has drastically decreased at first started to go down from at least 1-2 times a day for at least 5 months and then it went down to 1-2 times a week and then to 1-2 times a month and now it's been a month and a half since we've had sex. I've read a few articles about this allready, but none seem to fit my problem exactly. I was worried for a while that it might be me that was the problem and but he told me it wasn't and i know he wouldn't lie to me. I've asked him about it but he says theres nothing wrong. I just don't know what to do anymore. He's only a year older than me and he's suppose to be in hes prime. Is there anything I can do? I Haven't pressured him or anything because I dont want him to do it just to shut me up. I want him to want to. and I'm just not satistied anymore and im not asking for everyday, at this point once or twice a week would be nice. A far as I know there's nothing he's stressed about at work or school, could it be a cobination of the 2? or something else going on that I don't know about? and please keep in mind that im am searching for help and advice and I don't want to hear find a new boyfriend. I love him and im not leaving him, even if it means were not going to have sex anymore. But it's frustration for the time being as I find it a tad odd that I want it more than he does. and I don't really want to talk to any of my friends abotu it because I live in a small town and this is personal and I don't need everyone talking about it. and the last thing I want him to feel is embarassed. I havn't told anyone of my friends but I'm in need of some advice. Any Ideas?
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welll .... i am 16 and my boyfriend and me have been together for 2 years we were happily engnged but for some reason he keep lying to me, telling me hes spending time with his family and hes out with his so called ''mates'', he used to have sex all the time and my boyfriend was more then up for it, but now he wont pay me any attension, i try to come on to him, and he just has none of it. please help! i think he might be bored of me. he did finish me last year for another girl, for the simple reason my boobs wernt big enuff! hes also cheated on me! could this be happening agen? help!
January 3, 2011 - 12:27pmThis Comment
Leave him. Hes insensitive and extremly immature. He will break your heart. Trust me.
January 7, 2011 - 8:52pmThis Comment
What is your definition of a happy, healthy relationship?
I hope it does not include:
- a person who lies to you
- a person who is bored with you
- a person who cheats on you
- a person who puts you down (boobs too small)
- a person who refuses sex or stops physical intimacy
If your definition of a happy, healthy relationship is "none of these!", then please know that you DO deserve a healthy relationship, and you DO deserve to be with someone who treats you well. A mutually loving relationship is possible; it is too bad that this person is not mature enough to communicate with you that the relationship is over, so you will need to make that step for him. You are not the cause of the relationship being over; you are just mature enough to say it out loud.
Breaking up is hard to do; let us know if you need any support!
January 6, 2011 - 9:59amThis Comment
To me sex is what differenciates a boyfriend from a friend. Sex drives in people can vary over the years, with situations, with health issues. But if your bf of 10 mos. just won’t have sex with you, he is not what I would call a boyfriend, he is essentially a friend.
Why don’t you end the so-called bf/gf relationship, keep him as just a friend, and open yourself to meeting someone new? You are not married and I don’t see any percentage for you in continuing to beat what would appear to be a dead horse.
January 3, 2011 - 2:39amThis Comment
So I've been dating my boyfriend for 10 months we're in a long distance relationship and he has been home for Christmas he decided last night he doesn't want to have sex anymore...I don't get it..he's the one that wanted it in the first place do you think he's cheating on me while I'm not there?
December 31, 2010 - 9:33amAnymous
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If you have doubts you should bring this up with him, you need to have an open and frank conversation with him about your concerns over his sudden lack of interest in sex, as well as the possible cheating. It has been my experience that when in a relationship where you truly know the other person you have a "gut feeling" if they are lying. Trust your instincts, whatever the answers may be try to remain calm.
December 31, 2010 - 12:31pmThis Comment
well to be honest not .. most the cases here are about mans that aint givin sex to there women ryt ?? soo personly i think that if any women that is out there and is havin problems shouldnt be comin to sites to sort it out . i mean that people that ready this only kno wat u tell us rite and i think u shouldnt be telling us u should tell ur partner ño matter how hard it is .. ur doing this for a good thing but its ur man/woman and if u are with him or her its because u wantto trust love and SHARE. not everyting that goes on is to be shared with outsiders.
December 30, 2010 - 4:38pmThis Comment
it is ED with my bf and I think he doesnt want to admit it to himself. He would rather act stupid or silly while we are trying to fet intimate and I am going crazy cause last time we made live was two months ago. We got into another argument last nite cause I am feeling really neglected.
December 29, 2010 - 5:30pmHow do u get him to get help without telling him he needs it?
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only becausehe is not having sex with u doesnt mean he needs help.. i kno its hard but baby girl u have to thing outside that box.
maybe ur boring in be
maybe you and him just dont have chemestry
maybe he dont like you no more
maybe he likes you but is sleeping with someone eles
or he just needs space
December 30, 2010 - 4:45pmThis Comment
none above. he loves me and is not tired of me. he always wants to spend time with me. he is not running around on me either. He does work 6 nites a week and is tired. Plus he has some stress from his ex wife. So stress and tiredness and the medication he is on is causing him to have issues. When he does make love to me, its wonderful. When we used to all the time it was when he didnt work as much.
December 31, 2010 - 8:51amand I know he is working when he says he is cause I hang at the club where he gigs at.
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