Why Doesn't my boyfriend want to have sex with me anymore?

I am in the same boat and he tells me it's just stress but my heart tells me different. He is 26 and I am 34 but he keeps saying he like older women ... Don't know what to think anymore, I wanto believe him but I feel I am more in love with him than he is me anymore ;(

I am in the same boat and he tells me it's just stress but my heart tells me different. He is 26 and I am 34 but he keeps saying he like older women ... Don't know what to think anymore, I wanto believe him but I feel I am more in love with him than he is me anymore ;(

im 25 an my man is 27 . we have been together for 2 months and we bearly ever have sex anymore.. and when i try to he just makes a face an says i dont want to... we have talked about it and he just says he doesnt want to .. we lived together and go everywhere together so i pretty much know hes not cheating.. we talk about having a kid even tho he has 3 already.. in the last 30 days we have had sex 6 times and i dont know what to do.... and im good looking im short and skinny ... we fight about it all the time ... i hate being rejected ... he doesnt even kiss me the same anymore.. can someone help me !!

You don't know he is cheating for sure. As a guy, I am about to cut my girl off the exact same way. We have been going out for years but it just got long distance and she doesn't even want to (edited for content) on the rare occasion when she is in town or when I go there to visit. She leads me on about it via text or just bringing it up person to person and it gets my hopes up but when the time comes, shes too tired or there is something else going on. The only time it happens is if I'm really pushy about it and I'm just sick of being that way. I figure maybe if it is her getting turned down it might change and if she just doesn't ask anymore then (edited for contet) it anyway. I don't plan on cheating unless my hand counts as cheating. Sorry I know probably TMI. The bottom line is I just don't really give a flying (edited for content) any more because of her lack of interest and that's all. She barely even wants to cuddle any more. I thought girls really liked that stuff.

i am having the same problem also my boyfriend and i just moved intogether and it was a hot orgy in the begining it was amazing. then it slowly died off... and he has told me that he's all ready had me several times and he's just not that into it any more.. which makes since i mean we still love each other.. he's just tired of doing the same thing ... which suck and does hurt me a little but you know i get that... so i try to spice it up a bit every not an then throw in a toy or an outfit even a porn.. but he just isnt into it.... he also got this new video game(girls worst nightmare...lol) and he plays it 24/7 and he doesnt have a job it realy sucks... cause after a stress full day at work a nice bubble bath and massage and maybe a lil sumsumthin.. lol is amazing and just makes you feel on top an sexy again.... but it doesnt happen ... any advice or comments on it i would apperciate it :)

Riiight, my boyfriend is almost 20 and I am 18, we have been together for 2 and a half years. He got a late shift job about 8 months ago but we stopped having sex before that, we do have it sometimes, just not often. I also had a termination about a year ago which really messed with my head, perhaps it is still messed up but I would like to have sex every now and then. The sex stopped when first got pregnant, but we didnt know I was then... Its really strange with him because he will really initiate sex, but then when I go to give it back, suddenly he is too tired and says that I shouldn't try it at night... (night being 8pm) I think this is tooo weird because it seems he is bluffing? I dont know. I do know that when I used to go out, (I dont go out much anymore) I used to get so much attention. I love my boyfriend but I feel I have no self confidence anymore, I used to have bucket loads! I know I need to get my issues sorted out about the termination. At the time I had it, I didnt really think about it, I just knew I was too young and I WAS on the pill and I took it properly and I used condoms regularly too. The day I actually had it, I went to his house straight after and he didnt even speak to me for the first 15 minutes I was there, he just wanted to finish a game he was playing on his xbox. I split up with him over it but he said he wouldnt let me leave him so we got back together. I guess my sex drive is low too, he seems to want to initiate it some of the time, he can really pester me for it, except for when I want it... He often even wants it the same day and will pester me for it, so when I agree and 'freshen' myself up, he suddenly says he is too tired. Does ANYBODY have ANY resolutions? My problem is similar to a lot of peoples, but still pretty unique. Our relationship is really nice apart from that, we are pretty affectionate and we see each other every day so Im sure he doesnt cheat... (he is a bad liar and I have asked him) He also regularly watches internet porn but that doesnt bother me.

P.S I was his first, but he was not mine. He often throws this back in my face too.

heyy girl
well i think it isnt possable for a guy notto want it "/
it might be that he might have someone else in mind and obviously he isnt going to tell you that right!!!!

Telling her that you'd like her to lose wait is something that you should be able to do in a healthy and honest relationship, and besides you don't even have to tell her directly just suggest that you'd like to do some sports together with her or that you'd like her to come jogging with you in the mornings? Tell her that you'd like to stay in shape too so that it's a shared effort and your not just telling her what to do.

I have the same issue. Pretty much thought I was the only girl in the world who was in a relationship that the GUY didnt want to have sex. Same story as everyone else basically... we both look the same, used to have sex all the time... but in the last year I can count how many times we had sex on 2 hands. He insists its not me but its hard to believe it isnt. I have never been in this situation before and I just want to know what the hell it is. BUT I am scared to initiate sex anymore incase I get rejected.. and I am scared to talk to him about it because everytime I mention it, it seems like he gets more pissed off. It may be a self-confidence thing on his part, but its really hard to know what to do if that is the case.