Why Doesn't my boyfriend want to have sex with me anymore?

I'm going through the same thing. My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years and ever since we moved in together we have sex maybe once or twice a month, and that is only if I initiate it. It's been 7 months of this. I don't know what to do. He assures me it isn't me, I haven't gained weight. He tells me I'm beautiful all the time so I don't think he has lost his attraction towards me. I know he isn't cheating on me, we trust each other very much. I know he isn't stressed about work. He tells me there is nothing wrong and that he does want to have sex... We just never do. I'm at the point where I have given up and I don't even desire it anymore.

he's probably getting it from somewhere else!

( I am a male, have the same problem. ) I have been living with my boyfriend for about 1 year, been together 2 years now, and the first year we had sex every single day almost. Then it gradually went down to 2 times a week, to 1 time every two weeks, to 1 time a month, sometimes more if I am lucky. After getting on this site, I have confidently approached him about it. ( I know hes not cheating on me seeing as we are together 24/7 ) I have gained 40 pounds since we started living together. I asked if that was the thing that was ruining the sex and he said well after awhile it becomes a routine and also the wieght thing has affected it. He is not as sexually attracted. He admitted it. He said he is not going anywhere he loves me a lot and thinks we are doing good in our relationship and that sex is really not to important to him, so in a way this has been an eye opener to me. I am not worried about how our relationship stands we will be okay, but it is motivation for me to lose weight so I can feel sexy and have a better sex life. There are good guys out there. Mine still loves me and will stay by my side, but he was honest and told me my weight has affected us. This communication has been good. I am not mad at him, but more motivated to be healthy, I know this situation may not apply to all of you, but i hope it helps someone. In a relationship it is bad to get comfortable, those little things you did to please eachother when you first got together need to keep happening. They help keep all aspects of a relathionship healthy.

I had a friend with the same problem which was unresolved until the night he brought home another guy for a three-way. Turned out the father of her two children was WAY more interested in men than women.

well I would follow him to really find out if he is cheating, if its a small town i bet someone out there knows for sure, or have you gained weight? some guys it really bothers for their women to put on some weight, they are visual beings, so if you find hes not cheating For sure, then try some new stuff in the bedroom, cause hes either bored or cheating, and you dont see stress in any other area of his life then imo my exp mens sex drives dont drop for no reason.... look deep and you will find the reason!

I've been with my boyfriend for over three years. The first year and a half we had an amazing sex life. He would also masturbate on occasion n it never bothered me. Then we bought a house together n he had alot more privacy. We stopped having sex, from 3-4 times a week to 3 times a month at the most. He started watching alot if porn. When I found out he watched young teen girls I was alarmed and very hurt. He denied it but kept doing it. Then he started hiding it. When I asked him to stop for awhile he would then lie about it. I suggest he has an addiction but he gets mad with me and denies it. I wAnt sex! If I could masturbate and it be fulfilling then I would. But I can't. Well I have needs as much as He does. I'm willing to give him whatever he wants, but I have nothing he wants from me. He seemingly can not control himself. Does that mean I don't need to control my sexual urges for human contact and cheat on him? I would still love him and it would be as discrete as his porn. I have recently gotten him to agree to giving up porn for awhile. He still has no interest in sex or me, but now just masturbates whenever he can. I would obviously just walk out on him of this wasn't our only issue. He's kind and affectionate, respectful and faithful. But I don't know what else I can suggest or do that would improve this problem. It's not like he doesn't have a sex drive, he's said himself he would jerkoff at times everyday. Hes been using porn since he was a kid n it was most deffinetly an obsession at one time. I just can't believe that I have falling in love with a person that seems to have absolutely no interest in having sex with someone they love. And if this is just how he is, do I really have to let someone go based on simply who they are in the bedroom.?

I wanted to add for all those going through this too that I even became one of those people who sell sex toys/products to people at home parties just to try and get the spark back. I had everything that was being asked for from flavored stuff to things that vibrated and dvds/books, and even equipment. This was still not enough to get his attention! I think he is too in love with anime and video games to be able to handle a relationship and understand its a mutual give and take. If a man we love buys us flowers and goes out of his way to make a nice evening for us, we return the favor in bed so...if I'm dressed as your favorite character after serving you your favorite food and we finally have a sitter...DONT disreguard my feelings, tired or not-be nice! dont' remind me of where the vibrator is because you're going to bed, only to find out later that you jerked off in the bathroom when I went to go pick up the kids! Furthermore, if we arrange a hotel room for our first aniversary...guess what, either we're on the same page or one of us should start house hunting in the morning! I suppose since we have no sex in our relationship then we must just be roommates and are going to have to come to some agreement/arragement so the kids aren't hurt..but then again your too little of a man to not involve them and make them feel bad so it hurts me and i feel bad for something completely unrelated. But this is how a passive agressive person fights-they drive you away by making things so horrible and when you try to fix it they claim you're trying to fight. I don't like the person i'm becoming, stressed out, angry, and horrible self images issues. I hope all those like me don't wait for this day...if he doesnt want you, he never will want you the way you want because they dont know how...it's natural or not after the honeymmon period is over and people stop trying to impress eachother. No sex -- leave! You don't want to get pregnant and then feel trapped in a loveless marriage where it feels like your fault or until you cheat. men do go through slumps but to stop all together, if not medical reasons, must mean it's time to move on.