Why Doesn't my boyfriend want to have sex with me anymore?
We've been dating for over a yer now but in the last few months our sex has drastically decreased at first started to go down from at least 1-2 times a day for at least 5 months and then it went down to 1-2 times a week and then to 1-2 times a month and now it's been a month and a half since we've had sex. I've read a few articles about this allready, but none seem to fit my problem exactly. I was worried for a while that it might be me that was the problem and but he told me it wasn't and i know he wouldn't lie to me. I've asked him about it but he says theres nothing wrong. I just don't know what to do anymore. He's only a year older than me and he's suppose to be in hes prime. Is there anything I can do? I Haven't pressured him or anything because I dont want him to do it just to shut me up. I want him to want to. and I'm just not satistied anymore and im not asking for everyday, at this point once or twice a week would be nice. A far as I know there's nothing he's stressed about at work or school, could it be a cobination of the 2? or something else going on that I don't know about? and please keep in mind that im am searching for help and advice and I don't want to hear find a new boyfriend. I love him and im not leaving him, even if it means were not going to have sex anymore. But it's frustration for the time being as I find it a tad odd that I want it more than he does. and I don't really want to talk to any of my friends abotu it because I live in a small town and this is personal and I don't need everyone talking about it. and the last thing I want him to feel is embarassed. I havn't told anyone of my friends but I'm in need of some advice. Any Ideas?
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speak for yourself. you claim to speak for all guys just so you can make yourself look better than the rest of us.
Don't make assumptions about his intention. Keep your accusations to yourself.
if the accusations were not shared they would not be accusations, therefore your request is impossible to fulfill because it would negate the meaning of the word. please learn to speak english properly before acting high and mighty by defending some internet idiot. but then again, i would like to state that im not defending the post you replied to. just making point.
i don't mean to be rude icurhuman2 but did you even read anything i wrote... i found so many mistakes that you accused him of where as i had statements in my previous posts that prove your conclusions wrong.i was very disturbed by your comment and i know for obvious facts that your wrong, he wouldn't, not to mention couldn;t cheat on me as im with him allmost 90% of the time. when he works i go see him for his break when he's at school i come see him for lunch and he picks me up after school, my boyfiend is verry loving and i wouldn't trade him in for anyone else. And i believe that i sid in my first post that i don't want to hear get yourself a new boyfriend... it's just like a guy to accidentally miss verry important details about the main subject their talking about. At least my boyfriend listens to what i say and acctually remember stuff. and has a valid input while we talk.
Allright now i'll update the girls on what happened the other night, sorry i've been busy and havn't had time to give you guys an update...As to how the other night went, it went great we talked about it and we came to many conclusions. everythigns been goig much better. he told me he was stressed about workign and school, and that it just hasn't been on his mind lately, and i can understand that because i don't think anyone wants sex 24/7. i dont even want that i was just concerned, as to what was the cause and if he wanted to talk aout it. we figured things out. if anyone else is having this problem, all i can say is that if your relationship isn't strong enough for you two to be able to talk about things like this then you need to talk about being open with one another because i can't think of anyother way that i could have fixed this. i stayed clam i didn't freak on him i didn't want to stress him out i gave him his space about it and that acctually made it better, think about how stressed he would have been if i was on his ass about it all the time. I'm glad i subconsiously made the right decigions and i hope anyone else with this problem can try my advice before things get out of hands. it worked for me, hopefully it will work for anyone else with this problem, thank you to everyone who replied to my posts and for being interested in my problem and helping me through it.
special thanks goes out to Diane P and Alison B. thanks!
I think icurhuman2 had some valid points. Perhaps if your posts didn't include such terrible run-on sentences, it would be much easier to understand. However, I'm glad things have been resolved for you.