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Asking the Right Questions can Save Your Heart, Pocket Book and Self-Esteem

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Online dating has become the 21st century method of finding a friend, significant other, and soulmate. Unfortunately, it also means exposure to another aspect of cyber-crime and those who are only out there to woo you into giving them thousands of dollars.

These people steal other peoples’ pictures off the internet, make up fake profiles, fake scenarios, fake educational histories, and/or fake jobs all in an effort to get you emotionally involved only so that they can take advantage of you.

Keep Your Heart Safe

In "Online Dating: Set your Predator Radar", I provided a list of warning signs or things to look for when browsing profiles that should alert you to the fact that the person whose picture appears on the screen may not be who you’re corresponding with. In this article, I’m going to give you a list of suggested questions to ask if you are asked to instant message (chat) or correspond with someone you might be suspicious of, as well as other pointers.

Keeping your heart safe means you have to be vigilant and on your toes. These people will prey on those whom they suspect to be vulnerable and they may do it to somebody else if you don’t find the fraudster out and report them.

Revealing Questions

1) Some online sites show you the ID of the person who is trying to instant message you. This gives you a chance to review their profile before clicking “yes” to accept the invitation. Take note of height/weight in particular, education and profession and amount of income for that particular profession. Take note of their interests what they like to read, where they went to school, what kind of music they like to listen to, where they’ve traveled…these are all bits of ammunition you can use to get back at the scammer.

2) If their profile details don’t match their picture, report it. For example: a picture of an short, older, heavy-set man when the profile details read 6’0”, 120 pounds, and he’s under 40 years of age, be suspicious; sometimes these are the most fun to figure out though through chatting.

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