If you want to add stress to your life, I can help you. Here’s a technique that is sure to do the job: dwell on the things that upset you from your past.
It might be a mistake that you made that had consequences, or it may be an unfortunate event such as an accident.
It doesn’t really matter. If you can’t stop thinking about it, that’s a pretty good indication that you should do just that.
Do you know why our faces point forward instead of backwards? So we can see where we are going rather than where we have been!
You can't drive down the road of life with your eye on the rear view mirror. If you do, you will most certainly hit something.
If you make a mistake, try to rectify it. If you can't, learn from it, let it go, and move forward. I know several people personally who have made it their life's work to feel miserable about something they did in the past.
One girl in particular used to ride horses at the ranch where we boarded our horse. Several years earlier, she had been arrested for drugs and, as a result, went into a downward spiral into more drugs and alcohol.
She was so disgusted with herself for the original arrest, that she continued self-destructive behavior because she felt that she was "not a worthwhile person."
In therapy, it was pointed out that she did, indeed, make a big mistake and she can't reverse it, only learn from it. What was she going to do about it?
Continue to feel bad for herself because of what she did, or move on? It finally began to sink in and she has since turned her life around.
You can do this, but first you have to recognize that this is a problem you are facing. Think about it. Are you stuck reliving your regrets?
Or worse, are you dealing on a daily basis with the fallout of a mistake that you made? This isn’t rocket science. I think that if this concept applies to you that you will recognize it.
Once you recognize that this applies to you, try to realize that you can’t go back and make things different.
You can't un-ring a bell. All you can do is try to fix any problems you caused, learn from the mistakes you made, and give yourself permission to let it go.