A few weeks ago I wrote an article about how comforting it is to try to find the good in a bad situation; it’s a good exercise that will help take your mind off of the negative and, even if only for a few moments, remind you that every cloud has a sliver lining.
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I just got off the phone with Sally, a friend of mine who did a wonderful job of finding the good, and I thought it would be helpful to share her example.
Sally and her husband are doing very well; they live on 30 acres near us with horses, a riding arena, tennis court, pond, and a beautiful log home. A woman and her husband (Mauricio and Maria) have been working for them for 16 years, living in a cottage located on the property. Mauricio takes care of the horses, the gardening, and the general maintenance. Maria cooks and cleans, and has helped raise their two sons from birth.
The couple decided to move back to Mexico, leaving Sally suddenly without help. Plus her sons, in effect, lost their “second mom” who has been an important part of their entire lives. Sally is devastated; she feels like she has lost part of her family, and now she has to do a heckava lot more work than she ever did.
(Perhaps you find it hard to feel sorry for her; few of us have the luxury of having that kind of help! If that’s the case, fine, but what’s important here is that SHE feels a terrible loss and the associated stress, and how she is handling it.)
Sally told me that she always tries to find the good in the situation, and here is what she came up with:
1. Now that she has to take care of the horses herself, she gets to spend more time with them. She loves her horses and, in that regard, she is enjoying the extra time they have together.
2. She has seen a new side to her two sons. Both of them have been willing, even anxious, to help however they can. She gives them lists of things that have to be done and they are very enthusiastic about doing them.