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Setting New Goals? Ask Yourself These 4 Questions First

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Most of us are still in the throes of our New Year resolutions and doing our best to keep the promises we made to ourselves when January 1st rolled around.

Many of us have quit smoking, taken up exercise (my gym is packed solid — it’s actually ticking the regulars off!) or have at least reduced habits like overeating and drinking too much.

Hopefully we’ll stick to our resolutions but there are a few things we might need to rethink as the month continues or, if we are just starting.

What sounded great initially may not actually be attainable or even that important right now. It's a good idea to ask ourselves a few important questions:

1) Do I really need to prioritize this as a goal?

Sometimes we get on a roll and pick a lot of resolutions in the heat of the moment, as our good will and optimism soars. But we need to discriminate between what’s really important and what can be placed on the back burner for a while.

For example, if our home is dirty and disorganized, and we also want to lose 10 vanity pounds, then our home needs to be a priority. If we also need to pay down our massive credit card debt and paint a few rooms in our home, we need to set our weight loss and painting aside and work on our debts and home organization and cleanliness.

Having too many goals will make us Jack of all Goals and Master of None.

We are far better off working on two important goals than adding less vital, smaller ones that end up overwhelming us altogether — and before we know it, all our goals are thrown out the window and nothing is achieved. Make a list of priorities and work on the top two first.

2) Am I being realistic?

We’re very optimistic when we set our goals. Yes, we will lose 50 pounds by Memorial Day Weekend! Yes, we will have our cluttered home cleaned out by spring! And all debt will be paid off by the end of summer.

Really? Why the rush?

We need to give ourselves the full year or longer in order to achieve certain goals. While it’s great to have a certain deadline to strive for, it's also important that we make it a realistic one to avoid disappointment and self-blame.

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