My boyfriend never wants to have sex with me. It's killing me.

I am going through the same thing. I agree, it's awful. My guy loves me to death, and I know for a fact that he would rather masturbate. Over the years sex has diminished. It is now 3 months. If I move on him he smiles and just kisses me and tells me he loves me. He almost acts like I embarrass him. If I do nothing it's fine with him. He is helpful and thoughtful. I do not think he cheats. He just does not make love! We have talked about it and he gets upset, apologizes and says its him not me. How confusing! It's weird. He is very affectionate but no sex. Unless he does it alone. What to do ?

Well I'm struggling with this as well. I'm 25 and my boyfriend is 35. I was very honest and upfront about how I view sex. Im a very sexual person. And he said he was too. But now a year later it seems like I almost have to beg him to have sex with me. I don't understand it? Feels degrading. I know our work schedules are off and we both open early for work and he does have a little boy which he takes up all of our attention. But in the beginning he made time for us. I know he loves me and we are still very affectionate with eachother. That's never stopped. He was addicted to heroine so now he is on methadone so there is another reason because Ive read that it lowers sex drive. But he's been on it sense before we were together. I feel like im just helping him to justify it. BUT what about how I feel and what I want and my needs. He talks aboUT how it will change when I move in with him because he will have more time with me. And then he talks about marriage and having a baby with me. But I feel like how can I commit to a sex less marriage. I swear everything thing else is amazing between us. Like cloud 9 good. But sex he just could care less. Maybe I'm putting to much pressure on him and that's a turn off. But I feel like he lied to me. I mean why say sex is important to you if it's really not. He'd rather spend time with me connecting in other ways. Which is amazing and all but sometimes I just want him physically. It's not like I can just go have sex with someone else.... I'm lost

Oh god, I was in tears when I finished reading your post! You just described EVERYTHING my fiancé does , even down to stopping before he comes as though he can't be bothered anymore or I'm just not 'doing' it for him sexually. I feel so dead and lonely inside, as the only person I want to love me physically is him.
The pain.........oh god it hurts. Some nights I creep down to the lounge and sleep,because id rather be alone than be next to his sexy, warm body teasing me cruelly.
Blessings and good luck xx

Hi I am 17 years old and my boyfriend is 18 , we have been together for 3 and a half years . We haven't had sex in nearly a year!! He used to masturbate but promises he doesn't any more , he just always says he's not in the mood . I have said to him that we shouldn't be together if he can't be passionate towards me but he always says how much he loves me and wants to stay with me!! I try and dress up sexy or spend more time on my appearance but nothing helps ... I don't know what to do because it's really dragging me down everyday but he's my best friend and I love him ??

Look, I'm going to put this is a very degrading simple way. Men love new pussy. Men love the chase. Men love the idea of conquering a woman. Nothing is more appealing than the unknown. When your man first met you all, did you go on dates? Did you ask about his past? Did he initiate all the conversation and make effort to wow you? And not jsut with consistent text messages but with real actual effort? So many times women get into relationships and ignore the obvious sign right in front of them that a guy just considers them a placeholder and someone to have sex with. They're so busy having sex and getting caught up in sparks that they fail to use their head. "new pussy" has an expiration date. A man will only enjoy having sex with you for so long unless he feels a connection to you on another level. Which is why you are supposed to be sure a man is going to give you what you want before getting into a relationship and before you have sex with him. If your bond is based on sex, the relationship is bound to flop along with his attraction to you. These men are looking onto the other side of the fence because they AREN'T ATTRACTED TO YOU ANYMORE. It's incredibly hurtful, but it's okay. Why waste another moment with a man who doesn't see your value and wanna jump your bones every chance he gets? Walk away. Learn. Be smarter and do better next. Men are a dime a dozen despite how "special" you think this guy is. He's really not. Learn to use better judgment next time and find someone who is a best friend and a lover.

Im the same!my bf never wants sex and he'll give me any excuse to get out of it!i know for a fact he watches a lot of porn and i think thats the problem..i just dont it for him..he also pervs over girls in the street really obviously and im also beginning to suspect him of inappropriately talking to his female friends on facebook messaging.. think hes got quite a few dodgy habits regarding porn etc and i simply cant match up

Oh my god, its been a living hell for me..
I'm only 19 years old, but boyfriends only 20 and we have more sexual problems than a 40 yearold married couple.. we've been together almost a year now, we love eachother more than anything, but its the same story, we used to have sex everyday more than once a day in the first few months, now I'm luck enough to get it once a week, for about 2 or 3 minutes.. I've cried myself to sleep night after night because I feel so ugly and worthless.. we've had severely bad arguments because I'm a very sexual person, I love sex its one of the closest things I can do with my partner, I've tried so hard to explain this, but he gets upset, he tells me sex doesn't matter and I shouldnt need it to be happy, and that all I want him for is sex.. how much that broke my heart to hear him say that I can't even describe in words, he makes me feel like a horrible person because I want to have a sensual intimate thing with him, the man I love with all my heart and soul.. When he rejects me I feel like my whole world is crushed.. like I'm the ugliest woman in the world.. a woman should always be treated like the most beautiful woman in the world in a mans eyes..
Its sad that a woman so young at 19 is denied sexualness from her partner

P.S. I almost always offer to do all the work when he rejects me, I'm the girlfriend that will try anything new, do anything to please my partner, and I'm always open to sex even when I'm in the middle of sleep, with him its a million and one excuses; (too tired, too sick, want to relax, not the right time, I gotta work in the morning.. and it goes on)