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We've been dating for over a yer now but in the last few months our sex has drastically decreased at first started to go down from at least 1-2 times a day for at least 5 months and then it went down to 1-2 times a week and then to 1-2 times a month and now it's been a month and a half since we've had sex. I've read a few articles about this allready, but none seem to fit my problem exactly. I was worried for a while that it might be me that was the problem and but he told me it wasn't and i know he wouldn't lie to me. I've asked him about it but he says theres nothing wrong. I just don't know what to do anymore. He's only a year older than me and he's suppose to be in hes prime. Is there anything I can do? I Haven't pressured him or anything because I dont want him to do it just to shut me up. I want him to want to. and I'm just not satistied anymore and im not asking for everyday, at this point once or twice a week would be nice. A far as I know there's nothing he's stressed about at work or school, could it be a cobination of the 2? or something else going on that I don't know about? and please keep in mind that im am searching for help and advice and I don't want to hear find a new boyfriend. I love him and im not leaving him, even if it means were not going to have sex anymore. But it's frustration for the time being as I find it a tad odd that I want it more than he does. and I don't really want to talk to any of my friends abotu it because I live in a small town and this is personal and I don't need everyone talking about it. and the last thing I want him to feel is embarassed. I havn't told anyone of my friends but I'm in need of some advice. Any Ideas?
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anne711
hey girl! got something to share with you... why not trying not 2 give him the satisfaction he needs or want to.. you need to be more patient tho.. i mean holding back the urge for sex... try 2 reverse psychology him with that,pamper yourself more and have a make-over or just wear sexy dresses... i tried it with my husband last week... and it did the job, he's the one who asked and even did everything i want him too.. got it all, made me feel so good and darn so sexy! ^^, the 2weeks ignoring him if he's being turned on with the way i dress, tempting him and showing him that im not even thinking to have sex with him anymore...
my friend shared this to me, try making him drink a mult.vitamins that has ginseng content together with an effective energy drink before you guys engage to having sex... tried it and it gave a very satisfying result... it will keep him going 4 more.. ^^,
good luck!
August 20, 2010 - 7:36amThis Comment
i have this problem too.. we've been togetehr for 3 years and it used to be much more frequent and passionate. i am positive that he is not cheating. this has been an issue that has slowly developed and we've been open about it. my complaint is that he doesnt think having sex about 1 time a month, sometimes once every month and a half is a problem. he says everyone slows down and he's with me for more than sex (nice to hear, but still...) he's gained some weight in the past year or so, and has said that contributes to his energy for it. but i still love him and don't want anyone else, but at the same time it does not make me feel good about myself and he does not seem to understand this.
August 14, 2010 - 9:12pmThis Comment
Hi I m in the same situation, but i know all his passwords so i check up on him, i know i shouldn't but i recently found out that he has added himself to a site called facebook of sex and he has said a bit about himself and it says he wants a fuck buddy, i dont know why he wants sex with other people as i have got what every women has got, we have been through a lot but know i think he is taken me for a ride and making a foul out of me what can i do i still love him and i dont think he will ever change can you please help me?
August 13, 2010 - 12:35pmThis Comment
well it seems like im going through the same thing...Im only 23 and im very sexually fustrated...and of course im hating it.hes only 28 and seems like he dont want it like i do..as u say u dont want him to do it just to shut me up...i actually feel sad and hurt bout the situation...even though itz like only sex..y should i have to ask bout when r we gonna have sex...i want him to do it cause he wants to..i do feel like maybe hez not into me..or am i not turnin him on..but im a very pretty girl might i add.and i know he loves me..or does he not cheat on me..but like what isa the problem...maybe he will focus on sex real soon...i dont want another man or sex partner..i just want him to be into me a lil more ya know...im just glad im not the only one going through this stage of life...i will be back to check on some replyz tomorrow...love u all and keep ya head up cause dis will hopefully get better for us real soon...much luck..
August 11, 2010 - 9:49pmThis Comment
dont listen to these people pretending to be a guy and that says your man cheats behind your back. i can tell that this kind of posters are just another sexist feminist rtard thats just pretending to be a guy. probably got dumped by their boyfriend and got nothing to do in their lives lol.
anyway, talk to him, communication is the only way to fix this. ask him what turns him on or if there is a problem bothering him.
August 10, 2010 - 7:30pmThis Comment
If a guy isn't having sex with you, then he is either masturbating because he finds it more entertaining or he is having sex with someone else. I know, cuz I'm a male and get tired of dealing with what women think is sex....yawn! I'd rather use my hand 9 times out of 10 its better.
August 8, 2010 - 4:44pmThis Comment
Boys change partners very frequently, be aware of this, girls hold steadfast wof continuity
August 7, 2010 - 7:29pmThis Comment
honestly what some of you women need to understand is we, just like youselfs can get bored with the same thing over and over again. Once youv had it like 100 times and seen all the tricks its just not so apealing anymore, this won't lead us to cheat but it will make us not as likely to have sex wth you, spice it up mroe and try new things, sometimes you may even need to push ur comfort zone and add someone( three-some, group sex) or something new into yours and your boyfriend/husbands sex life, and if that doesn't work then he probably gay...
August 6, 2010 - 6:54pmThis Comment
well we're both very jealous people and keep our relationship monogamous. We only want each other. I definitely agree that he's getting kinda bored with the same old same old. I'll admit that I've been kinda bored, too. I just bought hand cuffs and this really incredibly sexy lingerie (He only knows i got the handcuffs). . . I told him I want to make a sex video with him and he seemed interested and liked the idea . . . but not as excited as i would have hoped. Doesnt matter tho. Im in pretty good athletic shape already but im going to work out more and get my body more toned in the next 2-3 weeks. In the mean time I'm not going to initiate sex but i will wear skimpier things to bed and give a little more effort in my appearance and attitude. Hopefully when the night comes he'll be missing it and will enjoy my little striptease and photo shoot. I want to turn the tables on him and make him want to ask me for sex. If this doesnt work then I'm buying a vibrator and he can jerk HIMSELF off cuz i sure as hell wont.
August 6, 2010 - 8:33pmThis Comment
PLAIN AND SIMPLE. After 1 year or 2 the passion dies and men will not want the same woman as much anymore. I have experienced it w 4 different girlfriends I had. I found them gorgeous and I couldn't stop wanting them the first year but after a while, something happens in your brain and you don't desire the same woman anymore. I NEVER CHEATED, and it was just as hard for me to communicate this to my partners as it was for them to hear it. I'm happy I never cheated and I respected them but just like a woman can say NO to sex, so can a man if he doesn't want it. I got married and my girl understands it, we don't have sex as much anymore but we understand and love each other and compromise. Cheers !
August 6, 2010 - 5:27amThis Comment