It was such a great feeling this afternoon when I opened my mailbox and saw that my new Social Security card had arrived. Just one of the final steps in a three-month stressful ordeal to regain my former, pre-marriage identity. Who knew it would be so challenging. And especially here in Arizona where the system is so archaic that a divorced woman is required to get her ex-husband's permission (signed and notarized) in order to change back to the name she was given at birth.
So, after filling out dozens of forms, making four visits to court (twice before a judge), paying over $300 in legal fees, stopping by the Social Security Admin. office to apply for a new card, visiting the DMV for a new license, getting new passports photos taken, changing my accounts at the bank, making dozens of phone calls, and yes, asking my ex-husband for permission, I am finally Kristin C. Davis.
Woo hoo!!
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Thanks, Free2Bme!
You know, it never even occurred to me not to take my ex-husband's name. Not sure why -- maybe because I just didn't know other women at the time who had kept their maiden names. And, oddly enough, it was such an easy thing to do. (No legals fees, so trips to the court, etc...)
Kudos to you for keeping your name and being in a marriage that's a real partnership!!
August 24, 2008 - 9:24pmThis Comment
I can't believe what an ordeal. At least it is finally over, and you can begin looking forward and using your time in more productive, or even fun, ways!
Because of all you mentioned, I never changed my name in the first place when I got married! Not sure what percentage was laziness (changing social security, drivers license, credit cards, etc, etc....) and what percentage was wanting to keep my own identity. I am not "Mrs. My Husband", but am happy to be married to him. I don't have to give up my name, just as he does not, to be a partnership.
Anyways, we did talk about us combining our last names, or coming up with a new one, but that was too much work! I love when someone calls the house, asking for "Mr. MY last name"! I automatically know it is a sales call!
Congrats, again!
August 24, 2008 - 9:04pmThis Comment