Sex Therapist and Marriage Counselor Dr. Marty Klein says women should know ejaculating or reaching orgasm becomes more difficult for men as they age. But women can help their men, and Dr. Klein explains how.
Let me tell you something about men that you might not know. As men get older it becomes harder for them to ejaculate, no matter how excited they are. Lots of people do not talk about this. But what that means is that a few minutes of intercourse can turn into a very long time of intercourse. What that means is that a little bit of hand job can turn into a long hand job and if you do not want to participate in that, if your hand is getting tired, if your back is getting tired, if you are getting bored, if you really wanting to watch the 11 o’clock news instead of more sex, you might need to tell your partner. You might want to say, “Honey, I am glad we are doing this and I am getting a little tired. Could we sort of wrap it up” and I tell you a related thing. As men get older, there need to ejaculate, every single time they have sex, that goes down also and so sometimes your partner, if it is a man, may be perfectly satisfied with, lets just end the sexual time together without him ejaculating and if you really understand this and if you are willing to talk about it with your partner, that may free you to design your own sexual interactions together without being trapped in this idea of we have to finish what we start. There is a lot of ways to conceptualize finishing what we start and sometimes if that is finished is to look at each other and say, “That was really great. I am ready to stop now, what about you.”
Dr. Klein, Ph.D.:
Dr. Marty Klein has been a marriage counselor, sex therapist & author for 28 years. He focuses on helping people understand and accept their sexuality, calling attention to the family, religious, cultural, and political issues that keep so many of us feeling guilty, confused, scared, and hopeless about our sexual feelings and relationships.
Dr. Klein is also the host of a sexual health show called Ask Me Anything, which airs on the EmpowHer Network. Dr. Klein is the author of five books, including, "Ask Me Anything: Dr. Klein Answers the Sex Questions You'd Love to Ask."
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