My boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year, and our relationship has been going smoothly, we do not argue a lot but he is not always the best at communicating how he feels. Recently he told me that he no longer wants to have sex, because he is afraid of getting me pregnant. He says that this will mess things up for us, since we are both at crossroads in our lives. We use protection, so it's harder for me to understand this. It just makes me feel inadequate and hurt, like he no longer sees me the same. I tried to ask him why he is just now saying something, but he says he's always felt this way.
I'm confused because some of my closest friends tell me that he is looking for a way out, or even cheating. This is hurtful because my boyfriend is really an honest person, just not always open with his emotions. We live together, so perhaps he doesn't want to break up with me now? Some experts say its normal for sex to slow down in a relationship, but I am just unsure about the whole situation.
Everything else is going fine in our relationship. We both have stress from work, but do not really talk about stress a lot. We spend adequate time together (maybe too much?).
I need advice because I'm concerned and hurt.
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