I have been dating my boyfriend for over a year now-- from the very beginning, he was very much the more eager one in the relationship- he was the one who made our relationship more serious from the very beginning-- we had actually met over a year prior and reconnected when he got in touch with me while he was abroad working and having recovered from pneumonia. When we reconnected, I asked why he had out of the blue contacted me again, he said while he was alone traveling and being sick with pneumonia, he was laying there one night and thought to himself "Who does he really like?" and decided to get in touch with me. He said he was just more concerned that I wasn't already with someone or already married. So the story is very sweet. From the very beginning, we were attracted to each other and always have a great time. Our sex was frequent and a lot of fun.. About 8 months in, it started to die down.. I am a very sexual person with a fairly high sex drive and I like sex often. Some things with work had been going on with him and he was always very stressed. When we started dating, he was freelancing after having a steady full time position soemwhere for 10 years, and his work slowed down due to the financial recession. He was always talking about work and being stressed and worrying financially. So I took that into consideration and was patient that this might be affecting his sex drive. What confused me a little was that in the beginning, our sex was more frequent, with his stress and all. Later on, he admitted to taking viagra in the beginning of our relationship due to his recovering from pneumonia, it was affecting him sexually. Anyway, I guess my question is, with all this stress going on, and our sex becoming less frequent-- Even after talking to him about it and telling him how it all affects me, he says he's just stressed with work and works non stop and says its hard to think or do anything else. How can I overcome this? I've told him that our sex life is becoming a problem. I even asked him to take a Viagra here and there, to which he gets upset. I know he feels embarrassed for having had to take it and I'm not 100% sure, but i don't think he likes the idea of me requesting it because it makes him feel badly for having to be dependent on something for sex. How do I change things up? How do I turn things around? I now, am always the one initiating it, and it sucks. How do I get things healthier and more frequent?
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