Why Doesn't my boyfriend want to have sex with me anymore?

Ok, so here's my question... My boyfriend and I have great sex, when we have it. It was obviously more common at the beginning of our relationship and became less common as time moved on. Because we have several friends in common i have been told that he brags about our sex life. Now before I go on, I know he's not cheating, I could give a million reasons why, so im going to make it simple and just say him cheating isn't an option. The issue im having is it will be a month tomorrow that we haven't had sex. He says there isn't a reason and leaves it at that. I still look the same, weigh the same, we still do the same activities together, we still have fun together, just no sex now for some reason and im really confused. Here's the crazy part, he still askes to be orally gratified but doesn't seem to care that I have needs too. What's going on??

I think men change and wants new variety every now and then, they lose interest not because you gained weight, or etc. It is how it works for men, they are just pigs and dogs.

Hi, I live ina small town and my bfriend and I have been together 4 bout 2.5 yrs .We r having a baby in 6 wks and b4 I got preg he was not overly in2 having a huge amount of sex, I most def have a higher sex drive than he does,and find myself masturbating alot,I dont think there is anything wrong with that, Im fit and healthy,not fat and frumpy so there should be no reason that my man isnt attracted to me .I love him so much and we have a fantastic relationship in every other aspect,just not sexually.On average we have sex max once a week, I see this though as a challenge, but when we do have sex he wont go down on me at all and claims not to know how to pleasure me, it tends to be all about him and seems to be over in 10 mins,then he goes and washes himself,puts jocks back on and goes to sleep,every sexual occasion without cuddling,kissing or talking dirty like I ask,he finds it uncomfortable.So I carry on purchasing more sex toys and watching porn for my own satisfaction,what eles am I supposed to do???He thinks I have nothing eles to think about and that I must be bored, and when I ask him if im going to get lucky tonight he always says "yes"and I take pride in being totally hair free down there for him then when we get to bed he doesn't want it at all.Extremely frustrating!!!

I have this problem also. I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years and at first our sex life was out of this world. Its just in the last year we hardly ever have sex and if we do im lucky if happends once in 3 or 4 months. I love him with all my heart but i dont know if he loves me anymore. I have tried everything to get him in the mood but nothing happens and i know he is not cheeting on me. I feel so down. Tonight i started to talk to him about how i felt about this problem and he went mad at me. Right now he is sleeping in our bed and im on the sofa crying my heart out and this is where i will be sleeping tonight. Im so sad as all i want is for things to go back to how they were. please help.

Thank you for sharing your letter Dwain!

I try my best to look at all poor relationship moments as training. These bad moments that we work through will either help our relationship be stronger in the long run for having worked through it, or be something to help us in our future relationships. Eventually everyone finds the person that they are meant to be with (or so I like to think (: ) and this training helps us to be the perfect mate for them, and vice versa.

Although I know it hurts when you finally realize that you cannot be with the person you love anymore, the realization itself will never go away and there is no way to fight it. Be strong and make your decision for what is right for you. And even though it will hurt initially, you will be happy and will know that you did the right thing afterward.

Also, I always had this notion that if you stay with someone when you are unhappy it is crueler than breaking up with them. What if during this time that you two are unhappy, the person you are meant to be with comes and goes? Or the person he is meant to be with comes and goes? It is far crueler to deny them the chance to find true love, than to break their heart.

I really appreciate all your advice. I do understand that hes got other things going on in his life but I'd rather him say this. instead every time I try and talk about it, its me that is making a big deal out of the situation, its like he trys to avoid the subject as much as possible. I think it just simply comes down to the fact I am not as attractive to him as I was 3 years ago. He has also mentioned that I annoy him more and he see's me like that. I myself cant see how I have changed and why I would be so annoying all of a sudden. I think we must just be growing apart. In response to the asking him to go first that doesnt work, its always you do me and i'll do you after, its like he seems to forget the 20 times before that that he's just fallen asleep after hes done.
but again, thanks for all ur comments and input :)