Why Doesn't my boyfriend want to have sex with me anymore?

I'm going through the same problem... I've been so cut up about it that I'm forcing myself to loose weight. I only weigh 103lbs and my goal is to go back to 90lbs. I'm hoping that getting rid of any bit of fat I have will make him attracted to me. We both love each other and we've already made plans to marry.. he just never wants sex. I can walk into the room completely naked and he still won't get in the mood... it really hurts. Just be glad that he doesn't stop in the middle of making love and says "I just can't do it," leaves the room, and goes straight to watching tv/ playing video games.

how can i gwt my fiance lol?

Once you have been in a relationship for a quite a while it is if u don't ask u don't get... I bet most of the girls on here went through a stage in not asking and they didn't get any where. So then you start asking and still nothing! But that 1 time they do want it and for some reason u turn them down you never stop hearing about it. Don't you think us girls get bored of the same position and same place and same person? Urmmm yes very but if u love someone and are spontaneous and have the attitude of 'I will try anything once' it shouldn't be boring.

the women here are totally ignorant to the fact that all men get bored with sex from the same woman, no matter how hot she is.
This is written in a man's genes and that's why no therapy or drug can permanently cure it.
Women think just because there are many men out there who want to have sex with them, that their BF or husband should also be always ready to pounce on them. They are too ignorant to see that those men who seem to want them, would also get bored with them after a few times of sex.
The only cure for this is to get her pregnant or breastfeeding so her hormonal desire for sex goes down, and leaves the guy alone from asking for sex all the time!

I have a similar problem, me and my partner have been together for nearly 6 years and sometime we can go without for 2 and a bit months. This really annoys me as I love sex n the more times tge better. Also he is not spontaneous it always has to be in the bed now it didn't use to be when we were only together for a few months how can I get him to be like that again?? I'm only asking for sex at least 2 times a week and for him to be spontaneous is this too much to ask??

I am in the same situation now- my twist is that he always starts with foreplay by fingering me. Basically punching the crap out of my vagina for a half hour, then expects me to suck it until he gets off. Meanwhile, anytime he gets near my vagina I have like 3 seconds to put it in or it goes limp. He has pretty much taken sex out of our lives. When I did ask him if it was me- he said no and I asked him why then? He wouldn't respond. He got tounge tied, so I rolled over and cried myself to sleep. We have only had sex successfully 4 or 5 times in 5 months. What could be goin on? I'm hot as hell and give killer BJ's

First of all I would like to say that I know what you are going through. I't a very difficult situation, and it makes you wonder if there is something wrong with you, or maybe there is something that you are not doing that would help. You start to feel insecure and unattractive, and desperate. But you simply can not ask for advice for your problem and only expect positive feed back. You have to be prepared for the worst and hope for the best. People who tell you that youre over reacting, and cheer you on saying that everything is going to be ok, are simply affraid of telling you that this might be a serious problem. Not because they don't care, but because they might not want to be involved in your situation or have you assosiate them with negative thoughts when it comes to your relationship. I don't know you, so I will be honest. I'm not trying to hurt you, I'm just trying to prepare you for the worst. I was with a man for 4 years. We had a beautiful home, we were going to get married and have kids. I noticed that our sex life started to suffer. We were in love, and I knew he would never lie to me. I could put my life on it because he was not only my lover, he was my best friend. He fell into depression. Was stressed out at work, had absolutely no sex drive. I started to think it was me. I felt helpless and unatractive. Four months later I found out he was having an affair. It shattered my heart. Everything I believed in was crushed and destroyed. I fell into depression, but I loved him so much I wanted to make it work. So I stayed, and I believed him when he said he was sorry and he loved me and would never do that again. And as far as I know, he didn't. But it took me 2 more years to realize that no matter how much I loved him and wanted things to go back to normal, I could never look at him the same. No matter how hard I tried to go back to how it used to be, I simply could not forget the fact that he was making love to another woman behind my back, while I sat at home and felt insecure, and wondered how to fix our sex life. After 2 years of trying, I finally gave up, and moved on. The point of my story is not to make you think he is having an affair, but to give you an idea of how life works. You can never assume that a man would never lie to you. And if he does, it doesn't make him a bad person. Men don't lie to hurt you. They lie to spare your feelings. They also make mistakes and feel bad about them. But it happends. Male libido, doesn't die over night. Something is going on, and you have to get to the bottom of it. If a guy is into you, he is going to want you. Sex is a way to express passion and love, and men are very sexual creatures. Unless he has serious health problems that require him taking medication that kills his sex drive, you need to start getting concerned. Don't be a dummy and take his word for it. Dig deeper, and be strong and prepared for anything. I wish someone gave me this advice when I was going through the dark time of my former relationship. I wouldn't have wasted 6 years of my life on a man who wasn't right for me. You don't deserve to be unhappy with a man who won't even make love to you. You need a healthy stalion, who will make you feel beautiful, and happy, and wanted. Because you are. And you have to expect that from your relationship. Why should you have to settle for anything less? Why should you have to settle for a guy who won't even make love to you? That's just unexceptable! You deserve to be competely happy. I hope this helped. Take care of your self and don't ever lower your standards just to stay in a relationship with someone who used to make you completely happy. Specially not when they don't anymore. Sex is healthy and fun, and you shouldn't have to give it up and wonder what's going on, just to stay in an unhealthy relationship. Good luck to you

Jasmine and Robert

Hi everyone im 22 and my partner is 29 soon, he doesn't really show much affection anymore, and i put myself out there all the time but he says im too tired, he does do long hours and is in the sun so i do believe him in a way but even when i come home from a 10 hour shift i want to have sex, do you think he could just not be attractive to me anymore, one of my guy friends is telling me he just has a low sex drive, im not sure but its start to really get to me and is making me feel like im not good enough.