This Thanksgiving season we've had both Black Thursday and Black Friday, and for many this is a major controversy. It makes the public wonder, will there be a “Black Christmas” instead of a White Christmas this year, all in the name of shopping sprees and bargains?
Thanksgiving is all about thankfulness. If you’re too busy shopping for the best deals, you might be forgetting the whole purpose of the holiday: to be grateful for everything that you have and to spend quality time with friends and family.
Dr. Paul Hokemeyer, a licensed marriage and family therapist and clinical consultant to Caron Treatment Centers, said in an email that Thanksgiving Day sales show a societal shift in values.
“I have real concerns over having a day that celebrates consumption and shopping infect a day that has traditionally been associated with family gatherings and gratitude for life's blessings,” Hokemeyer said.
“It is just another example of how we are moving from a character based society, where notions of selflessness, compassion and empathy for others are being replaced by personality based considerations, like narcissism, self aggrandizing and material consumption.”
Black Thursday can make people focus on scarcity instead of abundance as well, he said.
“Instead of listening to our hearts for what we need and allowing ourselves to be rich and full in the moment, we allow ourselves to be manipulated by advertisers and merchants that tell us in our present state we are not enough,” Hokemeyer said.
In fact, sales events like Black Thursday and Black Friday can even add extra stress in our lives.
“[Black Thursday] provides a constant and insatiable stream of needs and wants,” Hokemeyer said.
“For employees of these merchants, the meta message is that money is more important than spending time with your family and friends,” he added.
“Employees who are required or who choose to work are [placing] their financial well being above their emotional well being.”