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We've been dating for over a yer now but in the last few months our sex has drastically decreased at first started to go down from at least 1-2 times a day for at least 5 months and then it went down to 1-2 times a week and then to 1-2 times a month and now it's been a month and a half since we've had sex. I've read a few articles about this allready, but none seem to fit my problem exactly. I was worried for a while that it might be me that was the problem and but he told me it wasn't and i know he wouldn't lie to me. I've asked him about it but he says theres nothing wrong. I just don't know what to do anymore. He's only a year older than me and he's suppose to be in hes prime. Is there anything I can do? I Haven't pressured him or anything because I dont want him to do it just to shut me up. I want him to want to. and I'm just not satistied anymore and im not asking for everyday, at this point once or twice a week would be nice. A far as I know there's nothing he's stressed about at work or school, could it be a cobination of the 2? or something else going on that I don't know about? and please keep in mind that im am searching for help and advice and I don't want to hear find a new boyfriend. I love him and im not leaving him, even if it means were not going to have sex anymore. But it's frustration for the time being as I find it a tad odd that I want it more than he does. and I don't really want to talk to any of my friends abotu it because I live in a small town and this is personal and I don't need everyone talking about it. and the last thing I want him to feel is embarassed. I havn't told anyone of my friends but I'm in need of some advice. Any Ideas?
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im havin the same problem,been datin my chat 4 nearly 2 yrs now,sex was great the first yr,now we havent made love for over 6 months now,i keep askin him about it and keeps gettin the same answer,he dosent know,what am i suppose to do??
September 27, 2010 - 7:40amThis Comment
i bin with my girl for 3 year now.its the other way round she dnt do it with me just purly bcoz she dont want to.a relationship is not all bout sex and u gotta make your partner fill comftible in that sit.try bit 4play first c were that leads to x x
September 27, 2010 - 6:37amThis Comment
i am going through the same thing we just had our 2nd child and we dont have sex maybe once a week and having a newborn i havnt put makeup i am only 23 i dont need it but still an my hair is always in a pony tail etc i know sex isnt everything but it makes me feel that i am not prettyand that he doesnt love me so do you think if i got dressed up he would want me again i am so desperate cause we have amazing sex when we do it is never the same
September 26, 2010 - 3:19pmThis Comment
Im having this problem:
im dating a girl for the past 11 months, in the begining we had sex 7 times a week, lots of hours, she was very atracted to me, one time, at her family lunch day, i remember that day because she was telling me all the time "do me, do me" and her family was just next, and i was very happy because i always reciprocated and felt wanted.
Now, its like 1 a month, we talked so many times about this, she says she is ugly, doesnt feel confortable, she is not sexy, and she knows im all the time aroused when im next to her. Sometimes I initiate and she is like "zzzzzzz" she doesnt feel any pleasure, and im "wth is wrong with me?". Im not ugly, im decent looking, and i never had this problem with my last girlfriend. She doesnt feel sexy, but she says im gorgeous... so she thinks she is ugly, but has a gorgeous guy wanting her... whats the matter with her? Jesus, i never cheated and i dont pretend to cheat, but we are in our 20, and i was used to feel her desire for me...now i dont feel desirable. She is lovely, wanting to be with me all the time, but we even rarely kiss...but i love her and i know she loves me...
September 22, 2010 - 4:23amThis Comment
awe, maybe she has gained weight. We women, can be the most beautiful women on earth, but anything can make us not see it... Make sure you are direct in how you feel, and don't check out other girls while you are with her, you need to help her feel GREAT about her herself, like "hellobeautiful's" comment, she is a size 0 with huge breast, what guy wouldnt want to bang her senseless, I have 6 brothers, very different,but very much the same, so I know men. Do what I told beautiful to do, only you do it FOR your girl. Give her a bath, see where that leads, and look at her body, kiss parts of her, and tell her how beautiful she is after each kiss. Good luck.
that girl
September 22, 2010 - 7:57amThis Comment
She did gain some weight, and thats her point, she gain some kilos or pounds, and doesnt like her belly, her back, her legs, she says im gorgeous and she is ugly, but she is not ugly and its like being a poor girl with a ferrari. Who wouldnt want to drive a ferrari? I would, even if i was poor (its a metaphor). Thanks for the input.
Btw, I dont check other girls, i only have eyes for her.
September 22, 2010 - 4:03pmThis Comment
my boyfriend and i have been dating for 5 months, and i love to have sex with him but he isnt the same way! ill kiss him on his lips and neck to get him started and sometimes ill move my hand down there to get him "horny." but all he does is lay there, so ill try harder you know and ill go down there myself and give him head and he does like it.. i just DONT get anything i return. he doesnt touch me like i touch him, he always makes excuses not to have sex like "im tired" or "i dont feel like it", and my biggest problem of all is that he doesnt like to go down on me. and personally, i LOVE that. im tiny in a size zero jeans and D bra, like wtf is the problem?? please someone give me at least one answerr :(
September 21, 2010 - 10:45pmThis Comment
Hi beautiful,
If you have female friends, try hanging out with them more. Go to the mall, pick up a hobby, paint, act, sing, model, do some things on your own, away from him. My fiance (we just bought a house! YAY), tells me that his exes were all the same. They smothered him... Funny, I am busy writing, and meeting with other artist to work on projects, and he is always calling me, wanting me home, or wanting me to come to his job, wanting to be around me... I love him and my exes, but if I would have given up my life to chase them, or ready sexually every time he is, I am sure I'd have similar problems. It's the game of life, men love a challenge. Go get a new nice seduction like body wash/lotions, take a bath with candles and read a book or listen to music, get out, walk around him naked, maybe put on some new undies, make sure he sees you remove the tags, go up to him, give him a kiss, and say with a smile, see ya babe... AND LEAVE. NO answering phone, be busy with your girls or by yourself, then, HOURS later, return home shower immediately, and go right to bed. He may not notice right away, but do this for a few days, he will wonder what's going on... Make sure you are too tired for sex some nights. May sound weird, but, it works wonders hun. Good Luck
September 22, 2010 - 7:40amThis Comment
it is simple, a guy gets tired of sleeping with a woman once he knows she is always there for his asking. to keep your sex life up, you have to be selfish and self confident. you have to have your own life not always sulking up to the guy. you have to let him know you dont care about loosing him. in most cases do not always be there for him
September 21, 2010 - 9:13pmThis Comment
I agree that you must have a life of your own. Self confidence is key.
that girl
September 21, 2010 - 9:28pmThis Comment