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I'm recently married and my new husband and I have started talking about having a baby together. Not right away, but maybe we'd start trying in the next year or two. I have a couple of teenagers from my previous marriage and this is his first marriage (no kids). The problem is timing - we're not getting any younger!! We're both in our 40's - I'll be turning 45 later this year, and when I had my last baby at age 31, I thought I was totally done having kids. I never would have dreamed I'd even be thinking about another baby, but of course I never ever dreamed I'd get divorced and then remarried.
My question to other moms out there is what your opinion is on having a baby later in life. I'd love to know ALL your feelings on this. At the moment, I'm so enjoying my teenagers and love the fact that they're each becoming so independent and that we can do so many fun things together. I love my independence as well, and how much easier this part of my life is. As much as I'd love to have a baby with my husband at some point, I'm wondering if adding a new baby into the mix would be completely insane at this "middle-aged" stage of the game. What do you think? I could sure use some advice!
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Hey all
April 26, 2010 - 11:33pmjsu to let you all know I had my third child at home in the water at 46 years of age! (18mths ago)
All perfect pregnancy and delivery..there is biological age and chronological age..I think I was younger than a woman 10 years younger than me!!!
All best I say - if its meant to be why not!
maha
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Maha,
Congratulations on three healthy pregnancies and children!! And thanks for your point of view. It will encourage those who want to be moms but who are wondering if they are too old!
April 28, 2010 - 10:34amThis Comment
Had my first child at 45. Huge pregnancy complications due to incompetent cervix (which has nothing to do with age). Baby was born 3 1/2 months premature. Now, 2 years later, he is the absolute joy of my life and I am so grateful to have had him and more importantly to your question, at this time in my life. I am a more patient mom, certainly more financially stable and better prepared to handle Motherhood. I strongly recommend it! Actually giving some consideration to another one at age 47....
April 26, 2010 - 10:33pmThis Comment
Hi! to all.
I am a 44 year old women almost 45 next month. My husband and I been considering having a baby. I read each posted comments here regarding pregnancy over age 45.
I been doing a lot of reading and research and studies have shown more and more womens over age 45 having children in their later life. I myself at nearly age 45 would love to have a baby.
I already had two children in a previous marriage both boys who are now adults ages 24 and 21. It would be an enjoyable feeling having a baby in my life and these posted comments have given me some inspiration of hope to persue my dreams in having a baby. Although i must under go IVF is something I would consider. I just wanted to say thank you and best of luck to those considering having a baby at age 45 and above.
New York City
November 7, 2010 - 11:23pmThis Comment
i know how u feel, I am 45 and I just got remarried and my new husband wants a
February 7, 2010 - 7:31pmbaby also. but my worries r I have my tubes tied and i dont know if my eggs r still
good.people tell me i would have a down syndrome baby, but i am very healthy and active.
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Have you talked with your gynecologist about your possibilities of having your eggs harvested (or other medical procedure to allow you to try to conceive).
It is possible for doctors to test the "quality" of your eggs, and there are some medications that can help, too. While it is true that your odds of having a baby with genetic complications (including downs syndrome, as well as others) increases dramatically with age, it does not mean it is inevitable. There are many screening tests and diagnostic tests available, and it is important to talk with your OB/GYN about your concerns, as well as any relevant family history of medical conditions.
I am curious, however, that you say your new husband wants a baby, but you don't say if YOU want a baby?
February 7, 2010 - 7:55pmThis Comment
I had my first at 22. He just turned 21. I also have a 17 year old daughter. Well 2nd marriage and I am 7 months pregnant with a little girl. I got pregnant first try, have had a healthy pregnancy. And expect to have a very healthy child at 43.
January 25, 2010 - 11:00amThis Comment
Hi, Anon,
Congratulations!!! What a lovely post. Your new daughter will be blessed with two older siblings and you (I hope!) are blessed with two helpful babysitters when you need them. So glad you wrote, and best wishes for the new baby!!
January 25, 2010 - 11:03amThis Comment
Hi All
January 23, 2010 - 10:13pmI had myplanned baby girl (third child - my boys were 8 and 11 when she was born) at 46 years of age in October 2008..my partners first...he was 45 when she was born ALL NATURAL....I HAD A HOME WATERBRITH...she is a beautfiul being and I wouLD not change a thing..only part that has really challenged me after 15 mths has been broken sleep.....we are down to one feed a night now...That I found at 47 now has been difficult at times..but she is perfect in every way and ehr brothers love HEr deARly..what can I say
why wait????
all best
M
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why do woman have the menopause its natures way of saying hey love your baby making days are ending im 39 i would not dream of having another baby now i have 3 wonderful teenagers 1 who is engaged now living with his fiancee in a nice house the other two are doing well at school and college my husband and i now do our own thing and do what we want to do when we want to do it. also we have more time for each other slightly better of financially. also proud of our teenagers and the fact weve done a good job. i dont think my kids would appreciate me being pregnant i know how i would feel if it was my own mum who is 66 and my kids her granchildren would be mortified
January 22, 2010 - 1:45pmThis Comment